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[lonelygirl]

I have had a very bad experience with somebody called Matt from the Toronto area... Anybody who has come across him?

[lynda]

Hello lonelygirl, would you please give us more information about him and explain what has happened. What is his user name on the cougar site. Sorry this had to happen but so many of the guys are players.

[lonelygirl]

These sites are totaly new for me.. I came on here because I am busy going through a traumatic seperation as well as being new to Canada.. I was lonely and I thought I would try the cougar sites...
The first person I met on here was called Matt... from Toronto/Brampton.. He lives two hours away from me. We spoke for a little and he accepted me on facebook too. I told him that I was not after a one night stand or a short sexual relationshp but wanted a companion too.. He told me he had fallen inlove with me and that he was willing to stand by me through my seperation as well as move to my town. He came every second weekend and I must say he treated me like a queen, taking me out for dinner etc... I started loving him and felt totaly secure in our relationship as he made it public on facebook.. It lasted 2-3 months...
Suddenly all his photos dissappeared off facebook and when I questioned him he said he did not wan this pic on the net..Without warning he dumped me..As you can imagine... I was devastated!
He changed completely.. I found out he was taking a lot of weed and alcohol.
I thought it might be a phase but then I saw a new "older" woman on his friend list..When I asked him about her he delted her! I realized that he was probably back on cougar..I noticed he was on quite a few cougar sites when I investigated..When he met me he gold me he was new to cougar..only two weeks but I found out he was an oldie on the sites...Somebody messaged me from another cougar site and told me that if it is the same Matt.. he has a bad track recod doing exactly what he has done to me..profess undying love to cougars who want more of a serious relationship and then dropping them and never talking to them again!
This has left me totaly brokenhearted ,as I truly loved Matt, and I feel I can not trust any other young guy again!

[bayridgebabe]

loneygirl again we need to know his screen name on go cougar not his real name Matt. This way you are protecting all of us from making that same mistake (sorry) or being hurt. Most of the ladies on here look out for one another & if we find a scammer or a phony or a ass hole like Matt we warn our fellow sisters.

[houstoncougar]

I don't think it has anything to do with him being younger so don't think it's just younger you shouldn't trust. To me it sounds more like he's just an asshole and a player and is in it for the hunt and conquer and then when he has you (in love) he's bored and over with it. It's most likely that he has been romancing other older women all along. I'm sorry that that happened to you but accept it as a learning experience blow his cover and move on.

[lonelygirl]

As explained, he was my first one and when I met him I did not even take note of his screen name..It went quickly.. I e-mailed him and he responded and from there we never came back on here again.
He told me that it is possible to be on here in invisible mode so I am not sure if he is doing that..I have searched him and can not find him on here but he is on other cougar sites

[phxgirl1]

Sweet Lady lonelygirl,

We have all had experiences similar to yours. It is common with players. "love them and leave them" is their motto at all ages.

I am so sorry you have been hurt. We are all sorry you've been hurt, actually, all of us true women and men.

There is nothing to be gained from trying to retrace the footsteps of him. He will just take on another persona.

What you need to do is get yourself back on an even keel. Find yourself and be stronger next time. Don't think about the loser that took your heart, for you gave it in a vulnerable time in your life. Luckily, you didn't lose your assets and life savings like others have. Be thankful for that.

Learn to protect your very precious heart and save it for one that is worthy of it.

Be vigilant at all times. When the right one comes along you will know it.

phx_girl

[lonelygirl]

I have had such a lot of support and kind words from cougars (and some cubs!)..I realize I jumped into it too quickly but I am trying very hard to move on.... thankyou very much for giving me advice..it does make me feel so much better..When I am feeling low I log on to read my support mail again..

[laurentqc]

I am sorry... I realized by being on this forum that cubs have a bad history
We are not all the same!!

[susanlb50]

Lonelygirl..I'm so sorry, but as Phx said, its happened to all of us, in some way or another..think of it as having someone that helped you at a time when you needed it, forget about this loser and try to move on, there will be someone else for you, just be more conscious with the next guy..good luck