Looking for a lady who desires a younger man.

[AlanM08]

Hi ladies,

My name is Alan. I'm a 20 year old guy, seeking a relationship with a woman in the age range of 28-40. I don't know if this qualifies as "cougar" or not (i've seen different age ranges with different labels, but i digress), but it's an age-range i feel comfortable interacting with.

Let me give you a little back story. I work in a fine-dining restaurant. Day in and day out, i have women, in the exact age range that i previously described, walking through the front doors of the restaurant. Many of them go about their standard dining experience. There are a few, however, who put themselves out there and flirt. Unfortunately, creating a connection through my workplace is not something i wish to seek out. I say this because of the lessons i've learned in the past few years about ****ting where you eat (pardon my french).

In any case, it has been these multiple and frequent occasions of flirting with older women that has ingrained in me a longing for an older partner.

Don't get me wrong, i still have a desire to meet girls my age, but it is just not as strong as the desire to meet a woman. Girls my age are fickle, ignorant, and just plain inexperienced (with the world itself). They are, for lack of better words, incredibly uncultured.

This is where the desire to meet an older mate (lol, okay now that sounds a little too science-y) springs in. there is really something about a bold, older woman who has no fear or qualms (in the back of her mind) of interacting with a younger male, such as myself, that draws me in.

If you are a cougar or know of a cougar (and i really hope the term cougar is not derogatory in nature, at least i mean it not to be) who desires a relationship with a young-looking guy, i am their man. I'm 5'10, 155 lbs of lean muscle (i know this body-description may make it a stretch for an older woman, seeing as how i do have a somewhat teenage-ish, vs adults, figure). I am a dancer, but also an intellectual. i stay in shape with personal training at my local gym, but i also enjoy a good article on psychology/philosophy or even basic physics. If you'd like more info on myself, i'd be happy to speak with you upon request.

Again, what i seek is a 28-40 year old woman. I prefer a lady who has similar interests as I: dancing, physical fitness, literature/art, computers. I feel i may come off as a little "pompous" with my writing style, but i can assure you that the unintended pretentiousness of this post is contained solely in the text, not my actual feelings, thoughts or actions. I hope that that wasn't too much of a turn off to my ladies out there... this is really the first time i've put myself out there like this.

On the flip-side, in real life, i can be a goofball. I am full of energy (one of the reasons i dance), and if you desire that young spirit... give me a thought.

I know that this post has been a wall of text, and may even be in the incorrect part of the forum, but these words have needed to be expressed for a long time. Thank you for reading this post and considering my thoughts. I have no idea what results a post like this yields, but even replies or thoughts on just the post are welcome.

Thank you gocougar community.

edit: totally forgot to say i'm from CT, USA. If you're in that area or know of other's near there (i feel like it's going to be a stretch, but you never know), please let me know!

[redfyre]

Very impressive and articulate introduction. Welcome to the GC forum.

[houstoncougar]

Great post but, you do realize that a woman of 28 is a far different creature than a woman of 40 right?

[AlanM08]

Houstoncougar, i agree.

The reason i put 28 is because i wouldn't want to go below that age. I realize that women in their late 20's vs late 30's-early 40's are radically different in their experiences and knowledge, but they have something in common (at least what i thought, but correct me if I'm wrong). This common ground is hard to explain because nothing is absolute (and the idea is vague), but i can describe it as a maturity difference from their younger counterparts in the 18-27 range. I suppose this can be described as a generalization that i infer from previous experiences with women from these age-ranges.

Again, from what i've seen, ladies in their late 20's are more grounded than their early 20's counterparts. Those older ladies have also had time to disengage themselves from trivial or childlike behaviors and thought patterns. I know it sounds like i'm really trying to analyze this, but this is merely for explanation's sake.

The way i see it, i haven't had any serious interaction with women from either of those age groups (late 20's, or late 30's), so it wouldn't hurt to see how women generally are from each.. I'm not saying i'm trying to jiggolo myself or anything, but if it happens that i date a girl in her late 20's and it doesn't work out, maybe that wasn't what i was looking for. Maybe a lady of an older age would appeal to me more. A way to describe this thought process would be: "if you haven't tried it, you can't say you don't like it."

To continue with that idea, i believe that people may have a "sweet spot," or a preference, if you will, in their partner's age range (if that is an issue being regarded, as it is here). So if I haven't been with a woman from either of those age ranges, i can't say i wouldn't want to see what it would be like.

Ideally, i would prefer someone in their mid to late thirties, but that's not to say i wouldn't date a 30 year old or a 40 year old.

[RavynX]

Hey Alan, welcome to the boards. That's a long first post but pretty informative. Be yourself and you'll be fine here.

[lynda]

Alan are you sure you are 20? Sounds like you might be an old soul. Enjoyed reading your intro and at least you kind of know what you are looking for. Age gap relationships are actually exciting and having your attitude it should work out fine. Have fun and jump in and post in the forum. You make a good read and you might even learn something by reading what us ladies post.

[AlanM08]

Thank you RavynX, and thank you Lynda. Yeah, i'm a young one. Hope my posts don't sound too try-hard, haha.

[susanlb50]

Great post and welcome..whoever you find will be a lucky lady..

[AlanM08]

Thank you susan!

By the way Lynda, the first time i read your post i did a double take on what you said. I had never been called an old soul til christmas day (this year) and then you say the same thing not even a week later. I take it as a compliment though.

[laine175]

Wow....pretty informative....

Hi Alan and welcome to the forums, it's certainly makes a nice change to have something interesting to read. Your perspective is interesting and not uncommon of the reason young men are drawn to older women. Good luck on your journey I'm sure you'll enjoy the forums here it's a lot of fun....