Married - no go or what?

I'm curious to know what people think about a married woman (like me) who's interested in dating a younger man. I'm not really looking to sleep around. I guess I really am more of a romantic. I'm sure this is a controversial topic for many, and I don't want to offend anyone. At the same time, I appreciate the honest.

So, any thoughts? Am I crazy? Or does this resonate with anyone else out there?

Thanks! Jenny

[jurupa]

I would say in general it would be cheating. But I am sure there are women in the same position as you, tho I would say more want a physical side to the relationship. Saying that I think as long as the rules/boundaries where set and the relationship is on the discrete side, it could work out.

Yeah I'm sure everyone has different needs. Actually, it would have to be a lot more than just physical for me. For the physical to click, I'd need the love to be there.

Originally Posted by tarni

The question would be, Jenn, why are you still married...

First, I appreciate your various comments. It's new for me to be able to write about my feelings like this. And certainly new to be lent a supportive ear!

I think I'm partly attracted to the idea of cuckolding my husband. Knowing him, I think we'd all enjoy that situation. It would just hang on finding the right younger man who's interested in something that intense.

As I wrote, for me it's more than just a quick hop in the sack. I'm looking forward to something a lot more fun. *innocent smile*

[asouthernbelle]

I completely understand where you are coming from. I too am married, but am searching for love/affection/great sex from a younger guy. Tarni asked why are we married still if that's the case.....there's a lot of reasons. For me, the main ones are my son and my finances (which I am working on).

[djdrawp]

I think you are needing affection that your husband is not giving you. Maybe you need to look at this real hard. You love your husband but if he is not giving you satisfaction you might wanna be discreet its cheating, but there is a chance of getting caught. Is it worth losing your family. But we are not to judge you. You live and do what makes you happy. You do what you need to do to make you happy. Okay take care

[djdrawp]

Originally Posted by tarni

oh - and are you using your home computer to write here? Have you heard of keyloggers? Look into it and don't be fooled if you think you are fooling your spouse. I was the cheated-on spouse and he thought I didn't catch on - I had many ways to see exactly what he was writing when he thought I couldnt even bypass the passwords. The best way of not getting caught is not to do it.

you are exactly right

[deets007]

Originally Posted by djdrawp

you are exactly right

That's where the 007 in my sn came from....lots of affordable, undetectable spyware out there. Food for thought...

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by deets007

That's where the 007 in my sn came from....lots of affordable, undetectable spyware out there. Food for thought...

Yes there is. But you have to know to use it let alone know how to hide it. And no I am not going to share my knowledge of such things here.

Originally Posted by asouthernbelle

I completely understand where you are coming from. I too am married, but am searching for love/affection/great sex from a younger guy. Tarni asked why are we married still if that's the case.....there's a lot of reasons. For me, the main ones are my son and my finances (which I am working on).

I can understand the money part, but not the son part. Your son already knows the marriage is done for. So why do you want to stay around for him?

Originally Posted by djdrawp

I think you are needing affection that your husband is not giving you. Maybe you need to look at this real hard. You love your husband but if he is not giving you satisfaction you might wanna be discreet its cheating, but there is a chance of getting caught. Is it worth losing your family. But we are not to judge you. You live and do what makes you happy. You do what you need to do to make you happy. Okay take care

In a lot of ways I agree with this, as it is quite possible the "fire" has died in the relationship and it needs to be relight. On the other hand love is not infinite as much as we like it to be. And when it dies its best to move on.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by tarni

Jurupa - those keyloggers (and other spyware) do come with instructions. lol

Most of those are the easier ones to detect by using normal anti-spyware software.