How Is It Like Dating Younger Men?

How is it like dating younger men? Has the experience for
the message board been positive? The yougest person
I was with for seven years was in his 30's. I'm 46 and
he was 38. He was an angel until he started having
emotional problems. My concern with dating
anyone younger are family issues? I know in our society
there is a double standard in that it is okay for older men
to date younger women without any problems. My biggest
fear in dating anyone younger that 35 is to see
a young person's heart become divided over family loyalty vs.
the choice of true love. I've dated men in their 50's who were scary,
bragging about not paying child support to ex wives
which saddens me because I feel children should be provided
for no matter how one feels about an ex. I guess, I'm
curious about this cougar phenomenon. I've tried Match.com
and others places with men in my age group and found
online dating very deceptive. I'm a very honest, gentle and
sincere woman and I'm full-figured. One of my dearest friends
husband pretended he was single on Match.com and she
caught her husband, which was devastating to her.
Be it male or female having someone cheat on you is horrible.
I've never experienced that. Thank God!
I am just so suprised at the deception rate out there. Has
anyone had a success rate with internet dating and finding the
man or woman of his/her dreams. Very curious.

Personally, I think it is like anything else.
People click or they dont.
What do younger men have to offer that older men or same age men do not?
Energy, vitality, imagination, creativity.
I dont expect a younger man to "save me" or even pay or be the end all answer.
Any man at any age can be non compatiable.. a cheater, a liar, immature, etc.
You know what you are looking for so perahps focus on what he is looking for and if it is a match..... dont settle for less. You earned your years.
Younger men tend to seem to enjoy older women because they are stable, mature, dont change their mind every sixty seconds or even every day; tend to be professional and secure.
You have kids? You probably arent interested in a young man who can be another kid to care for. If you are, question that "care taker" role.

I doubt I will ever meet anyone online from my area or region and I am not willing to travel. My professional life doesnt afford it. Yet I do find the encouragement to know that I am just as energetic and vivacious as ever.

Maybe you will meet a man your age or older and he will be "the one" but why discount the younger man in the hunt? When I meet a younger man and he thinks I am 40, why tell him I am 50? Its like telling the 28 yr old he seems 22. It is what it is if it clicks.

Dear Ms. Tori:

I feel you are one of the most beautiful women I've ever
seen. I think any man would be grateful to be with you.
You look so young, vibrant and truly beautiful. Like you,
I cannot travel much because of job contraints. Our
hospital is so short-staffed. Also economically I cannot
afford it.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom. It is so greatly
appreciated.

Yours truly,
Sabrinawinter

[cynders]

I can truly say that I actually dated someone that I met on line and what a disaster that turned out to be. He completely lied to me to appease me and wasted 6 1/2 months of my life, until I found him out and he couldn't keep up the lie any longer. : (

Im not saying its all like that out there, but throw caution into the wind when it comes to serious relationships and online dating!

Just my opinion... but my insurance guy found his wife on match.com and is totally happy. So you never know, it just didn't work for me is all.

My latest i actually found at a night club 1 year ago this month when he came up to me and asked me to dance and hit it off from the get go. Though if I had to do it all over again when i found out he was just a mere 22 at the time? Hmm... this is a tough one, but yes i would. I am in Love! : )
He has brought me alot of happiness over the last year and tears...but more happiness.

Good Luck!

Dear Cynders:

I'm so happy you have found someone who cherishes
you. Everyone deserves happiness. I have been
having very bad luck with internet dating.
I've joined Match.com and sadly my girlfriend
found her cheating husband
looking for dates. BBpeople, loveandseek and
babyboomer I tried and noticed that people lie
about their ages and photos are not up-to-date.
My photo is up-to-date. I'm honest. I'm full-figured,
love my two cats and will answer questions honestly.
Mostly out of state people respond to my ad, which
is very strange. But I don't feel comfortable
meeting people out of state. I work in a hospital
where my co-worker and I haven't had a solid
vacation in 6 years due to short-staffing. Traveling
isn't an option due to work constraints, but it would
be so nice to meet someone in my area or in Suffolk
County. My friend and I both have trouble meeting
people because Long Island is full of married people.
One of my girlfriends had her heart broken from
a long distance relationship. I'm just suprised on
how the dating scene has changed in seven
years. I'm an honest woman. Oh, well, I'm glad
your friend found love at Match.com. I also pray
that your relationship blossoms like a spring garden,
full of promise, joy and happiness. Thank you for sharing.
I appreciate everyone's wisdom. All I seek is an honest
human being with a heart of gold. I've dated older
men who brag about not paying child support, which
makes me sick to my stomach. I've never had children
but feel they should be provided for and nourished
emotionally no matter what the ex wife did. The
youngest I've ever dated was 38. It's just
a different world. But my question is why do
people lie in the name of love. I respect the
rules of karma. What one gives out, one gets
back. Well, I'd rather give out acts of kindness
than bitter apples. So many bitter apples.
I think the bitter apples need their own country.

Yours truly,
Sabrinaswinter

I can't speak for Net dating success...haven't been at it long enough. But as for dating younger men, I've dated younger men from the time I passed that 30-year milestone. I simply find that my interests do not jibe with the interests of men my age. I'm still writing, still involved in the music and movie scene big time, and I don't want to talk about mortgages, divorce settlements, barbecue grills...the usual fare--you were so right about that! Right now, my writing keeps me so busy I can't get out and really socialize as much as I'd like, so I'm reaching out online. And I was thrilled to find this site! Here's hoping...for both of us!