Help ive fallen in love with an older women!!!!

[lilchaos1357933]

Im in love with an older woman. Please help me!!?

im only 20 and she's 54. We love spending time together, and most other aspects of our relationship are great except for the age difference.

We started out as friends but after 6 months it grew into a relationship. I also thought that it was casual and never imagined that it would last as long as it did.

Anyway, I may be in love with her that is completely possible but being in this type of a relationship can be difficult.I may just have a fascination because she is older and she may just be having some fun. It's not that there is just an age difference but there is a cultural difference, we were raised in two very different times. She has so much life and experience behind her and I am just starting out.

Now i really love her. Its a feeling i have. She made an agreement at the start of our relation that this all would be temporary and the love was not supposed to happen. But it just happened now.

What should i do? Im scared and desperate!!!

should i end it for ever?

[_CougarHunting_]

Are you sure it's love and not lust ?.

Are you having sex ? with her ?.

If so I, would suggest to tread carefully and maybe some one else has a better thought on this. I, wouldn't just end it like that but really figure where this could go.

[lilchaos1357933]

Originally Posted by _CougarHunting_

Are you sure it's love and not lust ?.

Are you having sex ? with her ?.

If so I, would suggest to tread carefully and maybe some one else has a better thought on this. I, wouldn't just end it like that but really figure where this could go.

im not sure if its love or lust i think about her alot but mainly its about spending time with her, im not sayin i havent pictured her in a lusty sorta way but not as much as just be around her, i really dont wanna get in a relationship were the only reason im with her is because of her looks Plus i really do love her personality thx.

[_CougarHunting_]

I'd just say take a few step's at a time it's only been 6 month's give her hint's but take caution.

Still wait for another to try to give there response as well.

[Laurad121]

LocDOG the coward sticks his head up to insult someone else and then his profile is gone again. I hope this idiot LocDOG never returns!

[ennui]

I met some 29 year old woman on a Facebook student loan forgiveness group. I eventually added her. We talked the whole night after she added me. Seemed like a great lady: intelligent, funny, open-minded. She was also incredibly beautiful. However, the next day she disappeared from Facebook completely. Haven't heard from her since. I got a pretty severe crush on her after that night too. It's almost passed now though, thankfully.

[Kie32]

Originally Posted by ennui

I met some 29 year old woman on a Facebook student loan forgiveness group. I eventually added her. We talked the whole night after she added me. Seemed like a great lady: intelligent, funny, open-minded. She was also incredibly beautiful. However, the next day she disappeared from Facebook completely. Haven't heard from her since. I got a pretty severe crush on her after that night too. It's almost passed now though, thankfully.

Intriguing tale brother...

[ennui]

I'm perplexed by the situation. Perhaps sending her pics of myself did it? I took them the next day. They weren't raunchy or anything--just me taking pics of myself in the mirror. She said the pics were "awesome" and that's it. After that she didn't say anything more to me even when I asked if she was there, despite her telling me she wanted to talk to me again the first night we talked. One of her friends who is also my friend said she talked to him that night to offer consolation after a bad day. I guess after she was finished talking to him, she deleted her account. My friend isn't sure why she did it either. Either way, it sucks and I miss her :/

[Kie32]

Originally Posted by ennui

I'm perplexed by the situation. Perhaps sending her pics of myself did it? I took them the next day. They weren't raunchy or anything--just me taking pics of myself in the mirror. She said the pics were "awesome" and that's it. After that she didn't say anything more to me even when I asked if she was there, despite her telling me she wanted to talk to me again the first night we talked. One of her friends who is also my friend said she talked to him that night to offer consolation after a bad day. I guess after she was finished talking to him, she deleted her account. My friend isn't sure why she did it either. Either way, it sucks and I miss her :/

I'm confused, I thought you had only been talking to her for one night?
You can't really put a whole lot of trust in someone you meet only on the Internet, especially if you've only known them such a short time. Although I do develop attatchments pretty quickly so I know where you're coming from. Sorry for taking the **** with my previous comment, think I misinterpreted something.

[ennui]

In my experience, people on the internet usually don't just disappear like that lol. What made it a bad experience was how I developed feelings for her in the time she disappeared and had no way of talking to her to alleviate some of the feelings.