Breaking up

[violet]

This might sound like an odd topic on a site that is supposed to be about meeting someone, but I think it's important. Let's say you've met someone and have been casually dating for sometime, but for some reason you realize it's just not working for you. Do you...

Meet the person in person and explain gently that you've decided to move on?
Stop calling the person and don't answer their calls and gradually hope they get the message?
Send an email or text message?
Change your online status to single? (just joking, I hope no one breaks up that way!)
Other?

[sonia]

I think it depends on just how casual the relationship is. If you see each other regularly then I think it's kindest to tell them face to face. If it's a 'as and when' kind of relationship then I suppose it's ok to just not contact them again, and should they suggest a meet up then to tell them you really don't want to any more.

[lunamor]

Violet, you forgot to mention telling them with a phone call Nooo, I'm not suggesting that, I think that face to face is more respectful and, as sonia said, kinder. Are you nervous about telling him the news?

[violet]

I wasn't really asking advice on how to break up with someone...I'm just curious as to what people think is the acceptable way. I personally think face to face is the most respectful, but maybe that's old school to the younger generation. But I agree it depends on how serious or casual the relationship was.

[Jng008]

As a guy myself who has been broken up my previous girlfriends its hard to tell because some guys like myself feel as if its better to see you in person.

For anyone someone who broke up with you via online, email, and text messages is just a painful and horrible way to break it off.

I say go in person and tell the guy, it may be awkward to see him and tell him that you want to go a separate way, but at least he will get you see how you feel about it.

[cherryaa]

Well as violet says, its not a personal post re her situation, but I agree face to face is best. Though I can understand in the age of cyber communications why some reort to that to deal with something that is difficult for them to do.

[violet]

Originally Posted by cherryaa

Though I can understand in the age of cyber communications why some reort to that to deal with something that is difficult for them to do.

I realize there is sometimes a gap between "what is right to do" and "what you actually do" in a difficult situation. I've been guilty of it myself

[lunamor]

Violet, sorry for assuming that the topic was about you!