Confessions Of A Boy Toy

[lunamor]

Article by Panio Gianopoulos

Ok not exactly big age gap as we know it (his wife Molly Ringwald was born in 1968, he was born in 1975),
but Confessions of a Boy Toy is still a nice article. Here's a photo of Panio and Molly. http://hollywood.greekreporter.com/f...0842024281.jpg

[redfyre]

Very interesting article. One paragraph stood out for me;

We were both adults, both optimistic, both with plenty of time to grow and learn about each other. If things worked out, as it seemed that they would, then great. But there was no need to rush. We would simply take this one day at a time.

One of the things that baffles me is how so many people enter onto the dating scene, with a determination to wrap up any encounters tightly in their own preconceived parameters. Women who refuse to look at a man unless he has avowed that he wants a long-term committed relationship. Men who specify they are only up for very short term encounters with no accountability at all - presumably because they are terrified one of the aforementioned women is going to start ordering the wedding china if he even hints he might want to see her more than once.

If I meet someone, it is with no pre-conceived notions. If we get along, and there is some attraction on both sides, then presumably we might have a few more dates. Then, if we are still seeing each other a few months down the track, it might be time to start referring to one another as bf/gf. If we are still together after a couple of years, then, and only then, might it be time to think about whether this is the real deal.

Anyone who is determined to enforce a strict set of parameters on their dating life isn't really interested in other people, but only in indulging their own needs and desires.

I note that the author of this piece had some preconceived notions of his own regarding how his dating relationships would pan out...and that he was quite surprised when he suddenly realised things weren't working out according to those parameters at all. And yet, he is now very happy. There is a lesson in that for everyone...just go with the flow, treat your dates as real people, get to know them....and then decide if you want to go further - or not.

[cherryaa]

I loved Molly Ringwald in Pretty in Pink - though Ducky should have got the Girl!

He writes
"Of course, “older” is a relative term. When you’re twenty-two, who isn’t older? The women I was meeting were in their late twenties or early thirties, hardly Harold and Maude territory. Now that I’m twenty-eight, they don’t seem old to me at all. But at the time, they were in another league. These weren’t college girls with their summer camp counselor jobs and guitar-playing ex-boyfriends; they had tremendous life experience. They had lived overseas, started their own businesses, read all the great books.

it kinda defines why older women can be so attractive, having said that "Respect" to any 22 year old with the cojones to make a serious play on a truly older woman, I'm not sure I would have had the bottle the other way round at 22.