Women and casual sex

[redfyre]

"Would you have casual sex with a stranger? How about a close platonic friend?

How about with Johnny Depp?

Getting more interested, ladies? If so, you’re adding to the evidence that some widely accepted beliefs regarding men, women and short-term sexual encounters may be significantly off-base."

Women As Likely As Men to Want Casual Sex | | AlterNet

[phxgirl1]

Oh Redfyre. I'd really have to think hard about it with Johnny Depp. Considering he's in a longtime relationship with the mother of his children, I'd have to turn him down and go to my bed, cry my eyes out. But, he wouldn't do that anyway, so he's a nice guy to me.

To me, casual sex is all in the situation between 2 people, that for me are friends. Sometimes it seems people say they want FWB when in all actuality it's NSA because one or more parties don't want to be friends, leaving the "F" out of FWB.

Does FWB sound nicer and more polite than NSA?

[violet]

Originally Posted by phxgirl1

Does FWB sound nicer and more polite than NSA?

Apparently so as even mainstream movies now show friends with benefits as acceptable behavior. In reality, it's basically the same thing as "no strings attached", except that you might assume that the "friends" know each other and expect some sort of mutual respect on that basis. That's where it gets tricky.

[lunamor]

I would distinguish "friends with benefits" from "no strings attached" in this way: "friends" have already had some kind of chummy, positive relationship before they hit it, whereas "stringers" start out with sex and any kind of friendship is subsequent, coincidental and secondary. This is also how I'd define "booty calls".

Actually, however, I don't even think about it very much. Probably if it happened to me, I wouldn't put a tag on it, I'd just think of it as "this thing I've got going with someone sometimes". But I'm vague that way

[cherryaa]

I suppose its also partly to do with where is it going.

If both of you know its not going intended to go anywhere in the long run ( i.e marriage or similar is the long term goal) - at what point do you accept that really it is Friends with Benefits as opposed to Dating?

Is the point that Dating becomes exclusive but FWB doesn't?

[phxgirl1]

I'm thinking it's what's intended at the time.

If a man says he wants NSA and you'd like some friendship, then you'd stay away from said dude because he'd never want to talk or get to know you as a friend, only want to have the sex and leave. But, if he want's FWB, then you'd expect to do some hang out stuff, chat and joke, have a bit of sex fun in between.

This is all totally different than dating or a relationship. Dating intimates a bit of personal knowledge and relationship means almost the whole shibang of committment, family and friends, household issues, way too much for me. hehehe.

[cherryaa]

By household issues does that mean

He can fix my tap? if so I'm definitely up for a relationship..........

[phxgirl1]

No cherryaa, not fixing things regarding the household do I mean.

Does he clean up after himself if he has a personal area in your place, does each person contribute to the grocery bill or is your refrigerator the one that makes the meals for both, does he watch movies/wrestling/sports, etc charged to your satellite billing? Just general household things 2 people would agree upon together.

[cherryaa]

Ha ha

I was joking phx

But yeah I agree that those things do contribute to the minutiae of describing a relationship, just that in my case he would have to install the satellite first. (and fix the tap )

[_CougarHunting_]

I, was gonna put you would have casual sex with Johnny depp just think about how most women would. Tho that would put me in the same category with most men wanting to do it with fill in the blank famous women by status of being a porn or non porn actress. In either case it's your body your mind and your decision.

Would I, have casual sex with a stranger ? It's probable but i'm gonna have to say depending on who it was with and did I, have a hard on while I, was with said women.