Is it possible for an older woman to have a real relationship with younger man

[lila2008]

I'm 46 years and still get carded. Most men my age think I'm in my twenties and quite frankly I'm not really attracted to them. I prefer younger men. The idea of being a "cougar" to me for most have seen it as very degrading. I don't think there is anything wrong with adults doing what they choose no matter what age. Its just can you have a real relationship with a younger man?

Not just a sexual relationship, but a long term relationship that lasts? Unfortunately from what I have seen from my friends its mostly just for the no attachment sex. I'm just curious if it is really possible. If it is probably would give me a more positive view in the future regarding younger men and giving them a true chance.

God Bless
Vicki

[_CougarHunting_]

Well first and foremost your a lady first. Being a cougar is just a term for a older woman that like's a younger male. I, mean the term for me being a cub going after a older woman doesn't really bother me. I'm not a label I, am me. There's really not a whole lot wrong with an Older female dating a younger male or the other way around. It's really all in how you feel all tho there are questions to be asked of course of your relationship with this younger man should you both decide to carry it further. The obvious question's of children no children getting him to meet your's and his friend's meeting each other's parent's and so forth and knowing that you both feel comfortable around each other and are able to share a intimate moment together whether it be kissing in front of other people and not feel you have to hide your feeling's or it being maybe more behind closed door's. The obvious behind the closed door's is it Love or Lust ?. Like you stated about your other girlfriend's dating other guys that just wanna do the deed and run. The next part is the attraction and well this is a must other wise why would the two be dating. This is something you'll have to determine and he'll have to make up his mind too on.

To get to the point and answer your Question as yes it is possible. There are guy's on here that are looking for a real relationship for the long term but I, can't speak for all of them.

I, hope I, was able to help .

God Bless you too Vicki

Sincerely : Michael

[sexy_pleasure]

Yes it is possible, trust me on this.
Just be careful on the type of relationship that develops right from the start.
If what you really want is a long term relationship, try to get to know each other first, do not jump right in to sex if you want something more serious than that.
Give them a chance to get to know the “real every day you”.
In my opinion once you start a relationship based on sex with a younger guy, they only see you as that "sex", that’s that.
Once again that is my very personal opinion.

[houstoncougar]

Yes it is possible it just depends on the couple. Oh, and I am 55 and still get carded because you must have valid ID to consume alcohol in an establishment that serves liquor.

[susanlb50]

lol houston...

[Laurad121]

It definitely can happen. My boyfriend and I are together almost 9 months. However, it hasn't been easy all the time. I am actually reading the book "Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance" for tips. Family issues (his family not mine) and friends (his mostly) have been the biggest obstacles so far but we are working through them together.....

[lila2008]

Ty for the honest replies. Houston it is a problem i look in my twenties so most men that ask me out are younger. I can be out with girlfriends they dont get carded i always do its not about the establishment. I never considered younger men capable of full relationships so seriously considering it because that is the most options i have. Prior to this forum it wasnt an option that i would consider other then just for a glood time like my friends.

[redfyre]

Originally Posted by sexy_pleasure

Yes it is possible, trust me on this.
Just be careful on the type of relationship that develops right from the start.
If what you really want is a long term relationship, try to get to know each other first, do not jump right in to sex if you want something more serious than that.
Give them a chance to get to know the “real every day you”.
In my opinion once you start a relationship based on sex with a younger guy, they only see you as that "sex", that’s that.
Once again that is my very personal opinion.

SP, that is a very good post. Well said!

[drazic1986]

With so many well thought and intellectual posts, I haven't really a lot to add to this post, other than age is irrelevant.

We are all capable of love, and we as younger men are capable of true, meaningful relationships.

I've endured a few older women in my time who haven't wanted a relationship despite saying they have, so it's all to do with a persons perspective, irrelevant of age. You get people with one track minds & selfish people of all ages.

[Lindsey9907]

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