My Cougar was defeated in karate class

[shirtlessboytoy]

I met a cougar I've dated at karate class and she would flirt a lot with me there. For a long time she was the best girl in the entire class but recently a new woman who is blonde came and totally destroyed her when they sparred. They went at it pretty well and my gf wound up laid out and exhausted on the mat. She plans on fighting her again, how do I help her feel confident and not threatened by this new woman who is also a cougar and flirty

[phxgirl1]

Uhm, I don't think it's up to you make her feel confident. If she is in the karate mode, she will do it on her own. Isn't that what it's all about? I don't think she needs you for that reason. Chill out!

Of course, if you're flirting with the other woman then it's not a karate thing, it's a relationship issue and you are playing her.

You say she's "my cougar". What exactly does that mean?

[whynotbehappy]

Martial arts has nothing to do with dating, and like any sport, you can't expect to win every time. If the instructor is allowing people to get hurt, that's their issue to deal with. Make sure you aren't flirting with the other woman, or you are making it an issue.

[bforboy]

when i saw the topic title i didnt know what to make of it.. but it made me chuckle and intrigued me.. thats pretty neat how you met your gf at a dojo.. maybe i should join.. bt yeah i agree with ^whynot that no matter how good you are there is always someone better.. moreover.. your class is about self-defense and not competition correct? just dont remind her of her defeat and give training encourage where needed.. and most important of all.. do not reciprocate the new girl's flirt.. especially when your gf is present too.. that will just bring disaster.. good luck

[_CougarHunting_]

Well it seem's to me she has quite a bit of spunk. I'm sure she has enough confidence to go in for another round seeing as you wrote she is already ready for her next sparring. I'd suggest word's of encouragement before she goes up against her opponent again. I, might also suggest letting her spar with you letting her practice a bit more. You might also practice with watching body language and eye contact. Martial Art's can be fun and for other's painfull. It's not so much in losing or winning it is what you've learned from it. I, might suggest as well meditating in place with movement and noise to sort of hieghten your senses.

Good Luck to the both of you.

Sincerely : Michael

[matt_sabbath_684]

I'd like to sign up for this Cougar Karate class you're attending. I enjoy getting thrown around from time to time.

[LostParadise]

It depends on you mate, no matter is she in the karate mod or not, women always needs a support from other half! If I were in your place (Training 8 years) , I would encourage (Only if she really want's to take her down) , train together, and the most important thing is to believe in yourself , after a sparring she could be not ready only in her state of mind. You both going to karate, thats very good, now if you didnt - try meditate with her, and that should bring her back
Honestly I wouldnt even suggest fight between womens, because it's just not the right thing to do ... Leave it for mens