More to just OW-YM?

I'm curious to know from you cougars out there if there's more to your attraction to younger men than meets the eye. For instance, I've been attracted to older women since my early teens...I used to lust after my teachers in junior high and high school, and the potential for a consensual student-teacher relationship has always been hot by my standards. Another situation that I find appealing in the context of older woman-younger men is a mom seducing her son's young friend (a.k.a. "The Graduate" style). Nothing new to anyone's eyes, I'm sure...so my question is: is it out of these types of potential situations that mature women find themselves interested in younger men? Or is it something else?

I'm YourSonsCuteFriend on the main site, fyi.

All I can speak to is my experience with agegap relationships. They have had nothing to do with the stereotypes RE: Mrs. Robonson/Student-Teacher/Son's Young Friend. All of my relationships, dating and marriage came about in the normal course of things via the usual channels: Friends, Co-Workers, Customers, Out Clubbing, Etc.

I have been dating and attracted to younger guys for a very long time and never had any qualms about being seen in public, what people might say or any of that kind of stuff. As far as I'm concerned, it's a "preference" like any other. As long as both parties are consenting adults, what's the problem? Much ado about nothing from my perspective.
RR

Thanks for the reply...I also consider older women to be a "preference" when I'm out and about. I was just trying to explain where the interest came from...the root if it, I guess. If it's a stereotype, than it's a stereotype. Inevitably, for me it definitely came from a place of sexual interest and curiosity...

Understood. There are many men and women on here who have little or no experience with agegap relationships who have really bought into this "cougar" thing. It's nothing new for older women to find younger men attractive and vice versa. Just lending a little "history" to the mix..lol.
RR

Originally Posted by clarkkent02879

I'm curious to know from you cougars out there if there's more to your attraction to younger men than meets the eye. For instance, I've been attracted to older women since my early teens...I used to lust after my teachers in junior high and high school, and the potential for a consensual student-teacher relationship has always been hot by my standards. Another situation that I find appealing in the context of older woman-younger men is a mom seducing her son's young friend (a.k.a. "The Graduate" style). Nothing new to anyone's eyes, I'm sure...so my question is: is it out of these types of potential situations that mature women find themselves interested in younger men? Or is it something else?

I'm YourSonsCuteFriend on the main site, fyi.

Hello, this is my first post! Actually, cuteness is a great asset, but I find a difference in cultural, and different "time zones" meaning age difference, intrigueing.

No...it's not about the old Mrs. Robinson image. It's about the fact that today's "older" woman is a lot younger than her Mom was even in midlife. We're Boomers, the wild children of the 60s, and we're not about to be tamed just because we've grown older in years. Unfortunately, a lot of the men our age have become domesticated, though. So we're looking for vitality in some cases. There's more, but...I wanted to refute that Mrs. Robinson notion!

Domesticated....you are too kind, mochamama. Not all but far too many older men have just let themselves go in body and mind. Im 50 and my youngest lover is 27. We had been asked if I was his mother a time or two. I laugh, he gets ****ed. lol With us, it was "pheremones". We were attracted by our similar body size, height and preference for dark hair... and then our common interests in weight lifting, golf and horses, psychological thrillers and literature. He dislikes nightclubs as much as I do but he also has a wide range of music preferences thank goodness cuz I am not listening to head banging metal all the time!! He's met Senators by being with me.......nothing major, just pretty cool. It just clicked and he had less issue with the age gap than I did initally. Im not after my "son". Mr. 27 is a mature (well, for the most part) *wink* young man and we enjoy the many types of connections..... the sex is simply a bonus. Im trying to figure out how he became so mature! <grin>
If I came upon a healthy, vital man my age, I wouldnt discount him for his age. I just dont see any healthy men my age....they must still be hanging out at Woodstock! lol

I came to this site because I was hit on a few times at the pool by younger guys after not swimming for over 15 years and was surprised. I wanted to understand why. I went back to teaching (I do translations from home and interpreting in conference booths) and was rather surprised coming back 20 years later that some younger guys were oggling at me for real and some of them meant business! Strange idea to me, but I try to gradually understand the concept. I guess it takes all sorts to make out our world at it is. I refuse to judge or condemn, as I'm no better than anyone else. But I think that on this site, there are different types of cougars I guess.

I think mature younger men value an older woman who takes care of herself, doesnt change her mind every hour or day, knows herself, etc. Younger women tend to get very easily jealous and possessive...... <grin> then again, so do some younger men.

I prefer to think of it as some women have no age, really. Look at the beauty of women like Tina Turner, Sophia Loren, Cher, Kim Catrall, Michelle Pfieffer, etc

Well known OW-YM: Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher, etc

I agree with the older guy synopsis. What I find is that guys my age want younger gals to either settle with and have babies or to look good! I am attracted to younger guys because I am really young at heart and act that way. I can't see myself and my personality with someone over 48. Just my preference in life right now.
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