33 years old... married.. obsessed with older women

[loaferspoons]

I'm a 33 year old college professor, and I'm happily married with kids... but I've had multiple affairs with older women, usually in their 50s. Invariably, these are among the most rewarding relationships I've had, and the sex is uniformly spectacular. My own mom is 54, and I've had amazing relationships with a handful of women older than her.

What is it about you girls? Your self-confidence? Your wisdom? I just can't stay away from you

You have got to be kidding me!!! Girls?!! I think not! You need help! I feel so very sorry for your wife and your kids. There are sites devoted to this type of weirdness. If you get any takers here, I'll be very surprised....how putrid!
RR

[cleoquel]

Whoa wait a minute. anyone who got offended at being called girls:

"You have got to be kidding me!!! Girls?!! I think not! You need help! I feel so very sorry for your wife and your kids. There are sites devoted to this type of weirdness. If you get any takers here, I'll be very surprised....how putrid!"


Now, your marriage and extramarital activities, if there are any, do belong on another site, but from your original post, gosh I don't know why anyone would blast you for that.

Please call me girl--I hate being called Ma'am.


(Girl at heart, age 34, going on 22, and I'm definitely acting like it!)

[cleoquel]

Let's remember that the poster is asking about the particular qualities of older women. He has not made himself the victim of our psycho-analysis.

Many, perhaps a majority, will divulge their disgust or personal experience with extramarital affairs. This is NOT this forum.

Answer the question or comment. Mine is Heck yes, confidence is paramount. That's why (you--and many others) like us, call us, confide in us, and flirt with us.

Cleoquel-This poster is here "trolling" for "girls"(I am a "woman")to have extramarital sex with and seems to feel he is entitled to it regardless of how his "family" might be affected by it so this is "on post" as you put it. I find his attitude offensive, demeaning, patronizing and his sense of entitlement unbelieveably arrogant. This is a site supposedly devoted to ow/ym "dating." Not morally challenged, married guys looking "for a little on the side" with the "girls." Putrid!!!

RR

[cleoquel]

um, absolutely nothing he said implies that he "seems to feel he is entitled to it regardless of how his "family" might be affected by it" Your reaction tells way more about you than anything he said.

Unless you have previous experience with this person who posted, why do you think he's trolling.

The "tone of his post says it all. It's a "proud" declaration. He is "trolling." Why else would he be here with such bold statements or here at all for that matter? I wonder if his "happliy married" spouse is aware of his obsession. Most likely she is. And his "happy" children "will" find out. What of them and how that will affect them? Does that not matter? Only "his" wants?

I have experience with his "type" dear. The "type" who claim "happily married" status yet feverishly seek out as many extra sex partners as they can get their hands on. It's a sickness. I happen to be one of those "children" who had a pathetic, sick "father" like this so I know "first-hand" the destruction this wreaks. The heartbreak, the sorrow, the utter devastation. I used to hear my mother sobbing her heart out in the dark at night when he was out with yet another of his floozies. He thought she didn't know but she did. She didn't think I knew but I did. I was 9. The toll this takes on the people around someone so utterly selfish and immoral is enormous and life-shattering.

What I would like to know is why you seem so compelled to defend this indefensible attitude. You ever dealt with the fallout from such self-centered, toxic behavior? Hmmmmm?....Interesting.

RR

Agreed! I am so sorry for the pain you all went through. I know all too well what it's like. If this guy is wondering why he has this obsession, I would recommend a shrink. His whole, neat little world is about to implode/explode.....and his "family" will be the most hard-hit casualties along with friends, colleagues and other people in his "circle." This has such a devastating ripple effect and has the far-reaching consequences you mentioned. My heart aches for his family, especially..

RR

[pba06]

My 10-year old daughter just sobbed uncontrollably in bed last night because of the same thing you have had to deal with, Ruby and Tarni. She kept asking ,"Why did this have to happen to us?? Why did this have to happen to me??" God only knows how it will effect her in the years to come. I agree that he could have asked his question without giving us so much disgusting information. A very egotistical and self-centered attitude. I hope he reads this and makes the concious decision to log off of his computer and spend more time with his wife and kids. Wives and children KNOW. If not sooner, then later.

[deets007]

I share your views on this. I grew up with similar experiences and ended up marrying a man who habitually cheated. After my divorce I was in counseling and the therapist made a comment that was very interesting. She said I was destined to marry him before I ever met him.... That I had learned to accept the unacceptable while growing up. I just hope my own daughter doesn't carry that baggage with her. It continues to amaze me that men like this are so unfeeling and will risk their family's emotional well-being.