the nice guy syndrome

[houstoncougar]

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[secretside]

As a fellow "nice guy", I know exactly what you're going through. I was fortunate enough to find a wonderful woman who got tired of the "bad boys" and I was there for her to show her how she should be treated. We're married now and couldn't be happier (plus, lucky for me she has a bit of a wild side and is very open-minded, which is why I'm able to visit sites like these without any kind of guilt or sneaking behind her back.) Anyway, just keep being yourself and it will pay off in spades. Sometimes nice guys do finish last, but relationships are not a race I promise you the reward is well worth it.

[live2be]

Did you hear quote "Nice guys finish last".

Its' a true statement. Try to differentiate youself from teddy bear and kleenex. Be witty, confident, intellegent, outgoing, spontaneous, fun loving and easy going character.


Treat every one with dignity and respect but and have a aura of mystery around you. You will then appeal to women.

[english]

I think quite often that the "nice guy doesn't get the girl/woman" equates to:
The guy who THINKS HE IS NICE but is actually neurotic, clingy, etc. Some people who actually appear to be a bit of an ****, are actually quite nice people when you get to know them (the same for both genders).

While you may not be any of these things, it's still worth people being aware of it, I think. I would say that you shouldn't always give what people want. I mean, if you found it very easy to get anyone you wanted, and then there was this one person who challenged you. Would you find them more attractive?

Women aren't usually attracted to raw arrogance, they're attracted to some of the bi-products.

[Jypzee]

its that syndrome where if u go out w someone u like u r real nice to him/her and that person ends up taking u for granted, but if u go out w someone who u r not that into, 9 times out of 10, that person ends up chasing after u..so in other words feign indiffernce to hook them..yeah, i know it sux