Insulting to be called a cougar?

[DragonsDream]

Personally, I just do not like labels in general. Especially when shrouded in a negative light by quite a few in society. I do prefer men younger than myself, however I do not hunt, nor do I stalk, nor do I move in for the kill.. ect...SO I truly do not see the association to the label. Im simply a woman that knows what she likes

[LACougarV]

Originally Posted by DragonsDream

Personally, I just do not like labels in general. Especially when shrouded in a negative light by quite a few in society. I do prefer men younger than myself, however I do not hunt, nor do I stalk, nor do I move in for the kill.. ect...SO I truly do not see the association to the label. Im simply a woman that knows what she likes

ABSOLUTELY AGREE! Oh is my label sticking out, DD? Would you check that for me?

[DragonsDream]

Lmfao.. No worries V, I got your back, and your "label" is just fine..

[talldarkdesigner]

I don't like the term cougar myself, but I don't mind it if a woman calls herself a cougar. It's not some phenomenon that was just invented a few years ago. It's an attraction like anyone has for another person. Cougar makes it sound like something fashionable and something that's so different and in at the moment just because of the media. Well to me there's nothing shocking or surprising about being interested in any attractive, intelligent woman.

[FunCougar4U]

I like you attitude, Tall.

[Cougar_In_Training]

Hi all!

I'm new to the site....and new to the whole "Cougar thing". This year, I just started dating men younger than I am and wonder why I waited so long. I am nearly 42, and I'm currently seeing a guy who is 27. In our initial conversation, he point blank asked me, "Have you ever considered having a Cub?" For us, the terms Cougar and Cub are playful and endearing.

One night we were laughing and carrying on and he was not going to tell me something until I asked him nicely, the way he wanted me to. He said that I had to say, "Please Cubby will you tell me...." So, ever since then, I'll drop him a text to say hi and refer to him as Cubby. And yes, in response he will call me Cougar. I think it's cute.

My girlfriends are having a field day with the whole Cougar thing as well. Many have apologized after calling me a Cougar or at least defining that they think the negative implication is not what they meant, but rather to have fun with the situation. What is even more comical is who calls me this - other Cougars and/or Jaguars! We all think society's double standard is stupid (as until now I have usually been the younger one by 8-10 years in relationships and no one said anything about that age difference, now did they?) and really enjoy the company of a man who is fun-loving, mature beyond his years that appreciates what an older woman has to offer in a relationship.

You can call me what you want if it makes you more comfortable. Labels help those who need to pigeonhole or define others...fine. I'm just gonna be happy no matter what you call it!

[robertmorgan]

That's okay...all i need is a woman in my life. here is my id on yahoo messenger ....robertmorgan4real........

[jade1]

Originally Posted by southerncoug

I'm just curious where others stand with this. The guy I am casually seeing constantly calls me a cougar and sometimes I feel it's derogatory. I own what I am but how do the rest of the ladies feel about always being reminded you are a cougar? He never lets me forget it.

I dont like it either. when a man dates a younger woman they dont talk about him like he is some animal.

[jade1]

Originally Posted by PrettynSmart2

In my experience, it's the guys 30 and older who struggle with misogyny and ageism, and seem obsessed with the term "cougar". The guys in their 20's that I've dated have all been very egalitarian and very appreciative of older women. Probably a generational thing - the younger ones grew up with the idea that women of all ages are worthy of respect, as well as sexually and romantically attractive as partners.

i think older men call us cougars because we are not interested in them and that is their retaliation. they are just jealous

[Robins]

The question of why is it socially acceptable for a man to date younger but not for a woman. It is kinda like an assertive man is just that but a woman is a bxxxx. I am trying to convince myself that it's the connection that matters and not the age.