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[4020]

Before we get worked up into any further lather... Being this involves a man and a woman it is very prudent to listen to and heed a woman's view on the matter.

As a man it would be something I'd discuss with whomever I was meeting with. First we both have careers and it takes some coordination to make schedules jive.

All three options are workable it depends on who and what. It is a good foundation to forming good communications. Communications is the foundation for any sort of healthy relationship.

[redfyre]

I opt for
a) setting a trip to a place located at half of the distance, where the 2 persons can meet;

[lady_emerson]

Ask your heart.

[yankeej]

geez, if you're 10,000 miles apart, try turning around. maybe she'll be closer if you go the other way around the world. hahaha. idk, man. I say bail. If you guys meet up, how long are you going to see each other for? would you really leave your life after visiting once to live with her? its a hard one to answer, but i wouldnt do it. You would be leaving your life behind for something that may not even be right for you

[bayridgebabe]

I don't know what 10.000 km really means in miles but I'd go for option A. Meet 1/2 way and find a suitable place & hopefully affordable for the both of you to make that 1/2 way trip.
P.S. Good Luck hope it works out for you )

[sexy_pleasure]

Originally Posted by violet

Sheesh, I was just trying to help. Nevermind.

LMAO
Violet, You are so funny!!!! ROFL!!! You made me laugh so hard!!!

[praetorian]

It is a meeting and not a life changing step. The actual age difference between the man and the woman is of.. well, 3 days.
They are friends for quite a while now, over a year and a half since they have introduced to each other. Lately, the two have been discussing about this real life meeting.
a)-2
b)-1
c)-1

[lofting19]

Howdy all. Guess I have to break into the forums at some point :-) In regards to the question, I don’t think there’s a difference between options a or b if you know that what you are doing is in each other’s best interest. I actually think it would be fun to meet someone for the first time somewhere I have never been. In that regard, I’d go with option a. If it’s a money situation for her and you’re already prepared to shell out a plane ticket halfway, how much more is it to go and visit her?

Ultimately, if I had feelings for someone with the upstart of a possible relationship with a woman, the distance and cost don’t factor in. In my case, I haven’t exactly flown across the world just yet, but I’ve driven as far as Nashville, TN to Raleigh, NC to meet someone whom I thought a spark existed between the two of us. While I can attest that the 9 hours TO Raleigh was incredibly invigorating: my heart was filled with adrenaline and happiness at the mere glimmer of hope that we would hit it off in person beyond such wonderful online interaction and phone conversations. I certainly didn’t need any Red Bull or Monster to keep me sane on the road :-) Unfortunately, the 9 hours BACK to Nashville seemed a bit longer after the face to face meeting didn’t quite capture the essence of the online chemistry. While the result did not come out in either’s favor, it was still so worth it to follow my feelings and my heart. You just gotta do it, no matter what it takes if the feeling is right: halfway or all the way. You won’t know until you do it. Not knowing is insufferable…

[redfyre]

Lofting, at least you got to drive through some pretty countryside. And it's pleasing to see you did put yourself out there, and take some risk. So many people are too scared to even do that much. Good for you!