Meeting the parents

[rribber]

So I am 27 years old and in a serious relationship with a woman 10 years older than I am. I was wondering if anyone could share their experience of meeting their significant other's family (cub or cougar)?

My gf and I entered this relationship thinking it would just be some fun for a short period of time, so we kept the whole thing a secret. We just kept having fun and sort of "waited" for the chemistry/spark to die but to no avail. So now we're in love and realized that we have kind of dug ourselves into a hole in regards to our friends and family being kept in the dark. I think most people will be happy for us, but others might be disappointed that it was a secret for so long and I am sure there will be a few (close-minded) dissenters due to the age difference.

[sexy_pleasure]

10 years is not much difference.
After all you are not 14 and her 47! You are an adult and so is she, aren’t you?
If your family or friends have a problem with you loving a 37 years old women, that is their problem, not yours. Family and friends are meant to be supportive. Are you going to let them dictate who can you date and love?
My advice, “Do not make someone else’s problems your own”.
Don’t you think ?

[houstoncougar]

I was 8 years older than my husband when we married. His mother disliked, distrusted and downright disapproved of the whole thing. Less than a year later after I had her first grandchild and her only grand daughter she began to thaw a little. Four years later when my husband died she spent every waking moment trying to make up for all she had thought and done that was against our being together. I don't hold grudges never have because I have never felt that what others say, feel or do should have any bearing on the decisions I make. If your family loves you they will accept and try to understand simply because they love you and that's all that matters.

[red_star1979]

I've never formally introduced any of the girlfriends I've had to my parents. Not that I'm ashamed of it or anything, I just like to keep my business to myself.

[violet]

Originally Posted by sexy_pleasure

My advice, “Do not make someone else’s problems your own”.
Don’t you think ?

I love that attitude!

[bluemerrage]

Originally Posted by rribber

So I am 27 years old and in a serious relationship with a woman 10 years older than I am. I was wondering if anyone could share their experience of meeting their significant other's family (cub or cougar)?

My gf and I entered this relationship thinking it would just be some fun for a short period of time, so we kept the whole thing a secret. We just kept having fun and sort of "waited" for the chemistry/spark to die but to no avail. So now we're in love and realized that we have kind of dug ourselves into a hole in regards to our friends and family being kept in the dark. I think most people will be happy for us, but others might be disappointed that it was a secret for so long and I am sure there will be a few (close-minded) dissenters due to the age difference.

I understand you situation. In any relationship never think to pleasing everyone with your gf, whether its too old, too young, too good or too bad. Dont fear that you might disapoint your parents, they will accept it whoever your girlfriend is. We cannot please everyone, because in the end of the day it will just disappointing. Just showed to your parents how happy you are with your gf. and never mind those few close minded. They are never entitled with your happiness.

[rhonda2]

fear not rribber- introduce her to your folks. I'm sure they will admire you for choosing a mature intelligent woman over a bimbo with tats and black nail polish.

[chilledice]

Originally Posted by rhonda2

fear not rribber- introduce her to your folks. I'm sure they will admire you for choosing a mature intelligent woman over a bimbo with tats and black nail polish.

HEY!!! there is nothing wrong with tats and black nail polish LOL xxx

[yankeej]

my parents would flip if they found out I was dating an older woman. It would take a while for me to tell my parents and convince them its what i want

[bayridgebabe]

I am 7 years older than my son's father & he & I were NEVER married. I know 7 years is not alot. I was 37 when I got pregnant & he was 30. Think that's where it all started, hehehehe. Anyway sweetie, do this for yourself & your g/f & no one else "F" em if they can't, don't or won't accept her & the relationship you two have. This is about the two of you, not anyone else. If people don't appreciate that you both found love (with each other), then they are either jealous or just not worth your time, or both. At 27, I personally think you should have a pair of balls & not worry or think what others will say.