How did you start?

[prefersmature]

I've probably missed it somewhere so sorry if this is a repeat post. How did you become interested in older women/younger men and when did it go from being a "thought" to reality?

[vita]

For some of us, it hasn't moved from thought to reality, that's why we're here

How about you?

[blane]

A couple of years ago, one of my son's 22 yr old Camp Counselors started flirting with me and....that's how it started for me. I never considered younger guys before- so it was a reality before I even had the fantasy....

[redfyre]

For me, I think a large part of it, is generational difference. Men born and raised in the fifties, sixties, and to some extent, the seventies, perceive women differently to men younger than themselves. I find, for example, younger men are more willing to engage in discussion on all sorts of topics with women, whereas many older men still reserve to themselves the right to play the "well, you're a woman, you would think that way" card. They also seem to have an innate belief that it is the woman's role to care for them; i.e. cook, clean, do the laundry, fuss over the man when he is sick. they also have an expectation of deference. Conversely, many older men are the first to also say "well, women are liberated these days - you do it" when it comes to something they don't want to do.

Basically, older men are too high maintenance, and frankly, not worth the effort. So for me, it's not so much that I am drawn to younger men because they are younger, but because they are the ones offering what I am looking for.

[violet]

When I was 6, the boy down the street kissed me. He was 5. I haven't ruled out the possibilities since.

[wetnwild]

I've ALWAYS been attracted to younger guys, for as long as I can remember. I just didn't realize that they were also attracted to me. That is, until a few years ago when a very young guy I worked with started flirting with me. He and his roommate, who also worked there, had a band so a few of us from work would go and watch them play. The first night I did that we started talking about what bands we both liked and realized we had a lot in common. Turns out a lot of his inspiration came from old-school bands like Pink Floyd and Led Zeppelin. Then one night at a party he was throwing at his place he asked me and a few of his buddies to join him in his "jam room" (where they practiced). He had learned the chords to Stairway to Heaven (which I had told him was my favorite Zeppelin song) and he sang it to me. Needless to say, he got lucky that night!

[tiffanyfontaine]

I've never really thought about age when I dated, until the last couple of years when the cougar trend become hot. I've dated men much younger than me for years, as well as men my age and older. If I like someone and we're mutually attracted, I don't discriminate about ages. With that said, I find myself much more attracted to younger men lately. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that they seem more exciting and vibrant, less jaded and grouchy about life. I can't deny that younger guys are usually in far better physical shape than most older men which is a big plus.

[houstoncougar]

I have always dated younger men and the older I get my preference stays the same. I am not what the media considers a cougar I am just an older woman who is hardwired for younger men. I was born that way just like I think gays are born gay.

[lynda]

When I divorced at 40 after being married for 15yrs to a man three years older than me and redfyre is most definitely right in the way older men think and treat you, many of the reasons I divorced. I actually tried to date men my age and older, because that is the mindset at that time, but they wanted the younger chickies so it put me into the younger man dating pool. It was a whole new world!!! I had no idea that younger men would be so attracted to an older woman such as myself. I have never thought of myself being anything other than an older woman enjoying the company of a younger man; never understood why a label such as cougar/cub has to be put on it. Most think a relationship like this can not work for a long period of time but I know it does because I have been one of the lucky ones to have had a 7yr relationship with someone 30yrs younger. Age gap or any age works with the right one.

[laine175]

Started 5yrs ago for me like Lynda I had been in a marriage for 22yrs, he had an affair so I left, my first relationship after that was with a 29yr old and we were together a year, and I haven't dated guys older than me since....