WHAT DOES IS IT MEAN WHEN A COUGAR SAYS .... and should i stay or should i go ?

[leonardoborgata]

the end ...........IT WAS MUTUAL FOR BOTH OF US !!

[whillow]

Why would you stay with a woman who can't make up her mind that it is you she wants? I had the same thing 2 years ago. It tore me apart because I really was in love with the guy but, I walked away. We worked our way back to being friends but, I will never allow him to get that close to me again. I realize now that I did make the right decision. There is nothing worse than indecision and indifference.

[leonardoborgata]

The Same Thing.........response
Leo-nyc

[leonardoborgata]

whillow said.......I had the same thing 2 years ago. It tore me apart because I really was in love with the guy but, I walked away.

whillow how long did you date him ? and he just couldnt make up his mind like how ? if you dont mind sharing ??


Leo-NYC

[whillow]

We dated for 7 months. When I told him I wanted to spend more time with him, his response was, "If you want to date someone else, too, I'm okay with it." When I talked with him about everything that bothered me and I was thinking of stepping back all he could say was okay and I'll miss you. We talked about it a few months ago and I told him, "You know, I was really in love with you." His response was, "I know." Thats when I knew I made the right decision. He knew and made no attempts to try to improve the relationship. I was always there for him when he needed me no matter what and I felt like I was just a convenience for when he had nothing better to do. No woman wants to be made to feel like that. All his I LOVE YOU's were just words. His actions spoke otherwise. Without action or meaning, words are just words. Now, I'm the one who is indifferent. He still says I love you at the end when we have a conversation or go out together on occasion. Now I know he is just going through the motions. And if he does mean it? Well, its just too late.

[whillow]

A PS, Leo. He is always charming, gallant and romantic when we are together but, now I'm seeing him more clearly. I am not bowled over and I know for sure I'm no longer in love. He is just a friend I care for. The funny thing is....the last time a bunch of friends were at a club together, he introduced me to some friend of his as his girlfriend. His fantasy, I guess, not mine anymore.

You can love someone but, not be "in" love with them. Its the "in love" that makes it wonderful.

[cynders]

Well, that was a long (lol)
WHOA!
Thats what I have to say about the whole book.
Dear, please take yourself out of that relationship (at least for awhile)
she doesn't seem to be on board with it as you are.

I don't know, it just sounds like you that maybe you are more into the relationship than she is and maybe time away from each other might clarify some of your questions.Sometimes separation time allows you to think more clearly than when you are actually IN the relationship. You know the old saying LOVE IS BLIND and I feel that it is best for both parties to maybe step back and truly see if you can really live life apart from one another.

Well that's my take on it. I'm just a 42 yr old women with my own dating issues at 7 months into my own relationship. I wouldn't have wanted the puppy either, especially only after a short time of dating, sorry : (

But, I just wish that I had a guy that would be willing to drive 150 miles to come see me. KUDOS TO THAT!!! : )

[leonardoborgata]

Originally Posted by whillow

A PS, Leo. He is always charming, gallant and romantic when we are together but, now I'm seeing him more clearly. I am not bowled over and I know for sure I'm no longer in love. He is just a friend I care for. The funny thing is....the last time a bunch of friends were at a club together, he introduced me to some friend of his as his girlfriend. His fantasy, I guess, not mine anymore.

You can love someone but, not be "in" love with them. Its the "in love" that makes it wonderful.

WHILLOW.....LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE WEARING THE PANTS NOW !! HAHAHA !! but isn't it sad that it has come to that....but in human nature, i guess we all want what we want, and when we don't get it, we feel ultimately rejected and pout...and want to know why !! Some act differently than others and some are to scared to step up to the plate .....knowing they have hit a home run already.....perhaps a GRAND SLAM NEXT !!

L

[leonardoborgata]

Thanks For The Advice Everyone................ciao 4 Now

[leonardoborgata]

It All Works Out In The End