Are older women more dependable and non-drama?

[mnaz21]

I am almost 22 years old.

I've dated a lot of women, ranging from 18 years old to 39 years old. Of the women I've slept with...only five of them mind you...they were 26, 31, 32, 35 and 39 years old. That makes the median age of the women I'm intimate with about 32.6 years old.

Of the dates I've been on with the 18-24 year old crowd, I've never had sex with any of them, and usually, something ends up messing up our date.

The youngest girl I ever dated, who sat awkwardly at the table in the restaurant, then told me she had a boyfriend, then didn't want anything to eat at all.

Then I've gotten texts from the younger girls. Usually within a few days of a planned date or right after a great date, I get that dreaded, "We have to talk" text message.

Or I had a 24 yr old who it was known around the building she worked in was extremely interested in me accept a date offer, only to have some old lady who worked there come with us, and tell me how it had to be a quick date because her friend from another state was showing up in four hours.

Or the 19 yr old with whom I was planning a meetup for a month, suddenly had something happen to nix the plans 36 hrs before our date, after 28 days of planning.

Now...those are just a few examples...and mind you...I've only been dating for 17 months.

Now, with the older women...I've had complete dependability. So much so once a 39 yr old woman actually drove out of her way to a coffee shop just in case I was there because she thought she might have forgotten about a planned date. I've never gotten any "We have to talk" phone calls or texts, never gotten the phone calls full of drama or gossip. I hang out with a 19 yr old and kiss her on the cheek, she gets angry and starts a feud. I hang out with a 31 yr old and kiss her on the cheek, she pushes me against the wall and takes me to her bedroom.

It's like a complete 180 as far as dependability and non-drama are concerned, isn't it?

[cherryaa]

I agree that in general older people are much more organised about their lives.

As we get busier with more commitments, we are likely to also be much more conscious of how precious our time is.

So the more mature you are, the more likely it is that if you say I will do something on such and such a day, you actually do that very thing.

I am sure that the ladies on this site who date both older and younger guys, could probably say the same thing in reverse, that in general an older guy who makes a specific date, keeps that date, whereas sometimes with younger guys, its a maelstrom of changing plans, times, dates, venues. even though he remains perfectly keen to meet up.

As far as what comes next after a kiss on the cheek, that's chemistry, maybe some of the younger girls, don't recognise it when it hit's them, maybe older ones do.

[romandog]

I would say the older girls dont' play game and just get to it honestly. NO reason to waste time over stupid stuff like these young girls. I had one girl who was texting me non stop for a while, and so, I text her a little bit, she doesn't answer, so I wait a while and do it again, everything is fine. And then later she calls me. We talk for a while, and everything seems fine. Then come to find out, she just ignores me from then on out. This was after agreeing to a date. Its like.. come on. Dont' waste my time.

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by cherryaa

in general an older guy who makes a specific date, keeps that date, whereas sometimes with younger guys, its a maelstrom of changing plans, times, dates, venues. even though he remains perfectly keen to meet up.

uhm at what age would that begin?

[amum4u]

The young man is not in control of so many things in his life and the older man is. The same goes for women. So why the craze for young people?

[al3x]

Originally Posted by amum4u

The young man is not in control of so many things in his life and the older man is. The same goes for women. So why the craze for young people?

A bit of a sweeping statement isn't it?! I am happy and content, what am I not in control of that a guy 20 years my senior is? Well apart from holding his waist in of course

A bit unfair to generalise in such a way and if you don't agree with it then why bother signing up, you surely have better things to do than trying to raise a reaction on a topic you obviously have no personal interest in.

Imagine if we all did that, what a boring and self righteous world it would be.

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by al3x

what am I not in control of that a guy 20 years my senior is? Well apart from holding his waist in of course

I'm starting to count on you for great laughs - bless you! :*

[cherryaa]

ha ha

See this is why I love young guys, who cares about the chaotic diary.

and Luna - unfortunately the age you can count on the diary date being kept is about the same one he brings the nurse and/or the zimmer frame to the date.

[artisan]

I think it really depends on the woman, some older women can be just as insane and dramatic and younger women. Age doesn't play that big a part in the end.

[lynda]

Artian that is a true statement. There is all kinds of crazies in all ages, men and women.