I'm in love with a guy from across the pond

[valerie]

Since someone insisted that I can not POSSIBLY be in love with someone without meeting him first, I feel compelled to remind her that SHE did not meet the guy who was playing every woman on GC, including yours truly, until he had moved in with her after she purchased his ticket to her home state, AND paid for all of his things to be delivered. My current love LEFT this site just yesterday because he didn't want to be here anymore. Apparently he found what he needed and left on his own accord.

I have deleted most of my profile and substituted discouraging phrases to potential male suitors. I AM in love...INDEED. This is well thought out, and I will not leave out of anger or disappointment as I have in the past when the above referenced guy refused to leave the site or migrate to a more appropriate support site for couples.

I know that I haven't always been the most pleasant lady on the site. I have a sharp tongue when provoked and even when I don't mean to be, my sarcasm is often misunderstood. For that I'm sorry because it's almost impossible to read sarcasm on the internet!

But today I love a boy who loves me back. I hope all of you will be happy for me, because many of you have been supportive and loving friends, and I thank you. I won't leave right away, but I'm genuinely not interested in any other guys aside from friends. In fact, I'm not even interested in any negative opinions or advice on my relationship, so to those who applaud my joy.....((((HUGS)))) and thank you. And you KNOW what the rest of you can do.

[houstoncougar]

Well Val I'm glad everything is working out for you. Now you know what I call that feeling (internet love or cyber love) when you have not met the person but are crazy about them. I will be rooting for you on this one but please just be careful with your heart. {{{hugs}}}

[cherryaa]

I hope it works out for you Valerie.

[bigglesworth]

Well, good for you, but as don't you feel rude talking about me in this post, I think it is rude, don't you? No matter how a relationship starts or ends, there still has to be face to face interaction for it to be a real relationship. Just my opinion nothing to read into it, and
I would like to know how it is going in 6 months.

[valerie]

Cherry...a most unexpected and pleasant surprise...thank you.

And thank you Deb...I understand your concern. But this is real and I need to experience this.

[cherryaa]

Valerie

Just because you and I have very little in common, does not mean that I would wish you ill in any way.

Dating is tough, internet dating even more so. When that is both geographically remote and includes an age gap as well, then it is asking an awful lot for it to work.

However throughout the world, more and more people are finding partners through the internet, in many instances those who would not meet in "normal" real life.

So who knows, maybe you will be one of the success stories. Good luck.

[darkly1]

Congratulations, Valerie. I think the idea of him deleting his profile because he found what he was looking for to be an incredibly romantic and strong gesture. I wish you guys the best of luck, LDRs are so difficult, but always manageable if both partners are committed to one another... and it sounds like you two are willing to go the distance (no pun intended )

[lynda]

Val very happy for you and most all of us have met people on the internet and 90% have had some sort of relationship. Darkly1 is right if you have a commitment to each other then all things are possible. There will be some bumps in the road but gosh what a great trip!!! I wish you the very best of luck. hug

[valerie]

LOL darkly...and thanks so much. I know that you appreciate what he and I are going through. I feel so surprisingly peaceful....haven't had that in so long. It's the first time in a very long time that I've felt my love was entirely reciprocated...like I didn't have to wait for him to catch up. And yeah...we ARE willing to "go the distance"...teehee

[laine175]

Internet relationships can work...I myself have had two relationships with guys I met on the net (not this site) and both ended because of issues that could and would have arisen had I met them elsewhere! one lasted a year and the other 8 months I ended both and I'm still great friends with both of them. So I believe it absolutely can work Val....and I wish you every happiness