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valerie · #11 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 07:47 PM

Awww....I can tell you're excited, but really...like the others said...DOWN BOY! LOL It's best to go with the flow and keep your paws to yourself...at least until the date is over. You will know if it's OK to kiss her. ;-)

cookiesandtea · #12 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 08:48 PM

Well I've heard women can get frustrated when you don't move fast enough, so that's why I was wondering. I'm looking for a relationship, not a one night stand.

lynda · #13 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 09:04 PM

I like hearing this coming from a cub. Cookies, everyone has given you some great advice now it is up to you. I think the most important part is to be yourself and do not rush; she must have liked you or would have never agreed to meet. The best of luck....

valerie · #14 (**permalink**) 07-07-2010, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by cookiesandtea

Well I've heard women can get frustrated when you don't move fast enough, so that's why I was wondering. I'm looking for a relationship, not a one night stand.

If you're truly looking for a relationship, then that's all the more reason to take it easy. If she's into you, she'll want to see you again, hopefully many more after that. You've heard wrong about women...at least THIS one...LOL What frustrates ME is when a guy won't take the time to know me and he's all over me. That kind of behavior just makes me wanna run! Don't know what else to say.

seagreen · #15 (**permalink**) 07-09-2010, 12:17 AM

Me too! Good luck & have fun!

cookiesandtea · #16 (**permalink**) 07-09-2010, 07:13 AM

OK well I just got back....

She talked a lot. I was worried about not having enough to say, but she actually did about 80% of the talking. I had an iced tea and she had coffee, we walked around for a bit afterwards. It all lasted about an hour and fifteen minutes.

At the end, she said she would like to get to know me better. She said that right now, we're just friends. She needed some time to get used to the idea of dating a much younger man. So we agreed to "friends with possibilities".

I hope it doesn't take her too long to get used to me. I really don't want to get stuck in the "friend zone". Or for her to find another man in that period of time. Do you think she likes me phsyically and just wants to think it over? Or do you think she never wants to date me and this is a good excuse to LJBF me?

valerie · #17 (**permalink**) 07-09-2010, 02:31 PM

I hope you enjoy letting a woman take control, because that's what she did...starting with the conversation. Most men don't like it when a woman talks that much, and if it's that noticeable to you NOW, then think about how it would be later on down the road. How will she get to know you better if she's doing only 20% of the listening?

I'm wondering how we would know if she likes you physically. It just sounds like you're stressing out too much and over analyzing. The more important question is....how do YOU feel? If you're worried about being in a "friend zone", you must like her a lot. The only way you're gonna find out her feelings is to ask her out again.