Can long distance relationship work

[yougojo]

I have met a cub who is on a different continent and the cyber sex is fantastic, we have a great connection and alot of mutual trust and respect. I hope to visit him soon but what is the experience here? Can a long distance relationship work?

[lynda]

A long distance anything is not easy especially when it is a relationship. It will work up to a certain point and then one of you has to make the decision to travel. Traveling within the same country is much easier than when it comes to another country. Now days it all depends on which countries because some are not easy to get in or him out. I think now days women have to think about traveling by themselves and especially to some countries for their own safety. I wish you luck on whatever decisions you make...

[darkly1]

Hello, I am new and hesitated to register here but wanted to give my perspective on the question.

I believe it really depends on what you both want out of the relationship and how much you are willing to put into it. I am in an LDR as well and my SO and I are absolutely 110% committed to each other. We are not a casual hook up, and in fact I am planning on moving to his state when my lease is up in March. As it is my boyfriend and I are 800 miles away from each other. Plane tickets are reasonable enough so that we see each other every 2 months. When we are apart there is CONSTANT communication between the two of us. At any given point of the day we know what the other one is doing. Even though the distance can be trying at times our relationship has been quite successful.

I know a few couples from another forum who are in international LDRs. The most successful ones are those who are completely and wholly committed to each other. And, much like myself, they are also in constant communication. But, once again, these are serious, not casual relationships. The international LDRs that I know have plans to end the distance, and eventually one will have to migrate to the other's country. It is the nature of the beast.

A long distance relationship CAN work, but it takes a whole lot of patience and effort from those who are in it.

[lunamor]

Hi darkly1, welcome to the forums and thanks for sharing your experience and advice! Hope you'll stick around and join in on other discussions as well

[seagreen]

Nice commentary, darkly1. Thank you!

[valerie]

Thank you darkly1....you've been such an inspiration! They say that people pass through our lives for a reason and I've always believed that, yet always amazed when it happens. You've inspired faith....and I guess that's what it takes.

[yougojo]

Thank you all for your comments and especially darkly1. You have given me confidence that despite a huge number of miles we can make this work. Take care all.

[oscarete]

Agreed with darkly,If there is a strong commitment, the relationship can works

[chilledice]

Hmmm well as alot of you know already i moved to Finland to be with a girl who i loved dearly!! i was out there for a while but when i came home she ditched me in an email! basically saying that she didnt want to move to the uk in the end etc etc

I guess if BOTH parties are in love then yes sure it can work because love really DOES conqour all!!!! but it really has to be a 2 way street or its just never goona happen, and a big issues with long distance relationships is TRUST!!! you have to know deep down in your heart that the both of you are secure and happy with eachother!

[houstoncougar]

I just remembered my first LDR with Phillip a guitar player in a punk band. I ended up running away to be with him when I was 25. I quit my job sold most of my stuff mailed the rest packed my bags took a flight to LA and lived in the same apartment complex as Motley Crew in a one bedroom with all 4 of his other band members. Man I was in love fell for him the minute he said my legs looked sexy and that he wanted to lick them. I was wearing fishnets a black mini skirt and a neon Sex Pistols tshirt and had hot pink and magenta spiked hair. I have really got to start my memoir or I am going to forget all of these absolutely lovely young men some day.