How do you deal with other people's reactions to your age gap?

[violet]

Originally Posted by gemelmay

One of the men who is my age made a passing comment to me about how my bf is young enough to be his son.

This is always supposed to be so shocking! Biologically, a man could father a child at what, 12? A man who is 12 years younger than me would be 42. Hardly a child, and since people usually think I'm 5-10 years younger than my age, people would just think we were roughly the same age. So silly.

Stay strong and follow your heart! That guy is just jealous

[chilledice]

Originally Posted by violet

This is always supposed to be so shocking! Biologically, a man could father a child at what, 12? A man who is 12 years younger than me would be 42. Hardly a child, and since people usually think I'm 5-10 years younger than my age, people would just think we were roughly the same age. So silly.

Stay strong and follow your heart! That guy is just jealous

Woaaah you REALLY DONT look 54

[violet]

Originally Posted by chilledice

Woaaah you REALLY DONT look 54

Thanks...that's what people say. I sometimes feel it though, ha! Think I'll go take a nap now

[wetnwild]

I totally agree with Susan. 13 years is not that big of a gap and you are still young enough to have children. However, having said that I know someone in the EXACT same situation as you. The guy is turning 23 and his live-in gf is about 35 and has a daughter. His mom just found out about the two of them and is doing everything in her power to ruin his life and break them up. The guy is very committed to his gf and determined to make things work with her so even though it is causing him some stress, he is determined not to let it get to him.

So as far as facing a lifetime of criticism from family and friends goes, yes, it is very possible. You two will just have to decide if that is something you are willing to deal with or not. You can only control the controllables. You can never control what someone else will think, say or feel. So don't even try.

[valerie]

Good grief....you're only 33....I'm not sure that even qualifies as a "cougar"! I suppose they'd completely disown him if it was me....LMAO!!! I wonder how my own sweetie's mother would respond if she knew that her 21 year old son is planning on playing with a 60 year old woman! Holy age gap! =:-o

As for how people will respond to us.....he's not the kind to care what people think, and I'm simply amused by the attention a cougar/cub couple receive. HA!