My thoughts on Cougars and Cubs

[jrod70]

I am relatively new to the "hunt" but I have had one experience with a Cougar and I have thought long and hard about the good and bad.

As a 23yr. old I have found that the women I am attracted to are generally looking for someone a bit older. I have always been attracted to the beautiful women in their 40's, 50's and 60's. There is something incredibly sexy about a mature women who is confident and experienced. But at the same time, those beautiful women are hunting for men in their 30's and 40's. There are a few out there that are open to the idea of an energetic 23 yr. old. but I think most women see us as too immature and uncertain about what we want.

Its incredible the wide range of experiences and preferences that Cougars have. I know all women are different but many "Cougars" only want someone less than 10 yrs younger, where I thought a Cougar was one who was attracted to men much younger.

I love reading profiles and seeing the list of things women want. They truly have experienced life and know what they are looking for. I guess that makes them even sexier.

I also think that there are plenty of "Closet Cougars" that have all of the desires but none of the guts. I bet many young guys frequently come into contact with these silent Cougars. Oh how I wish they would tip themselves off to me!

What do you think?

[lynda]

Hi ya Jrod! I don't know who you been talking to but not all of us are looking for someone just 10yrs younger than us. I do not judge people on their age only on their maturity level. At 23 you are sounding very mature and I like the fact that you bring energy to the table. It is very true that many mature ladies only have the thought of being with a younger man and do not have the balls so to speck, to step out of the closet. Older woman/younger man relationships are not for everybody but for those of us who appreciate what a younger man can offer and he loves what an older woman has then it can be a match beyond belief.

[jrod70]

I agree that this doesn't apply to everyone. I know speaking in generalities can get you into trouble, but I feel like there is a general overall truth.

Also, there seem to be at least twice as many guys hunting than girls. I bet that would be an interesting debate.

[wetnwild]

To me, a woman who is only looking for someone less than 10 years younger does not a cougar make. That isn't a very big age gap. I'm not sure where you're getting your information from but there are many of us on here who prefer MUCH younger guys. My personal preference is guys between 19 - 29 and my last serious relationship was with a 23 yo.

As far as there being a lot more guys than women on here, yes that is very true. But all of us women can tell you that a great majority of the guys are just looking for sex chat, web-camming, etc. Whereas we women like to meet in person and go on a real live date!!

[jrod70]

Thats true! That goes back to the maturity thing too.

[laine175]

I agree with ww for the most part... my age has no range or boundries....as long as I have a connection. So many of the guys on here though are just looking for the cougar experience or NSA that it can be a drain if thats not what your looking for!!!

[susanlb50]

I agree with the other women, I would date someone 23 if we had chemistry and the maturity was there, not just looking for sex...

[jrod70]

I would estimate 90% of the guys and about 10% of the ladies are looking for NSA or the "experience" instead of a committed relationship.

[lunamor]

jrod, I think you're right! Do you think the guys who want NSA are more prone to zoom in on older women because there's a (mistaken) perception that it's all we want as well, or do you think NSA is a pretty standard approach even towards younger women? And how interested are younger women in NSA?

[jrod70]

I think men want NSA any way they can get it. But I do think you are on to something with the perception that older women don't want/need a committed relationship. I also think that being a member of this website have mistakenly led young guys to believe that older women are looking for that when most of them aren't.