Have I scared him off?

[cougar1970]

Hi
I will try to make this short and sweet. I am a yoga instructor who has recently become very attracted to one of her students ( I already know all the ethics and politics surrounding this, so no need to remind me). I have been teaching this person since September 2009 and have always thought that he was attractive but only recently discovered that I am very attracted to him. He is maybe ten years older than I am, so he's about 48 that doesnt bother me, I know that he has children because he's talked about them but he;s never mentioned a g/f or wife and no ring on the finger which unfortunately I know doesnt mean anything.
In addition, I used to work at a restaurant very close by his corp office and he came in a couple of times....I really got his vibe that he was there to see me, but of course who knows? Either way, I feel like he is attracted to me and about three classes ago he was the first one to come into the class (this is at a corporate office) and I started to talk to him. He basically just stared at me in bewilderment and didnt say a word, like he was shocked that I was talking to him and I felt like a fool!! After the class, he left of course and he smiled and said "see ya"...but he hasnt come to class in about three weeks..I get the impression that he's very shy, but still, have I frightened him just by trying to start a conversation....should I back off? I was only trying to test the waters....
Geez....
Thanks for any advice...
Lori

[8ball]

Well, it's totally possible that he could either be talking to someone else, or swing the other way...





And wait, you're on a cougar site asking for advice about an older guy?

[vita]

Nothing wrong with a yoga teacher chatting to someone who's come early to class. I doubt very much that you've scared him off because of that.

If he doesn't come back to class it could be for all sorts of reasons but it will resolve the issue for you - if he was extremely interested he'd keep coming.

I don't think there's anything to do now except wait and see if he comes back - you can't back off OR come on too strong if you don't see him.

Is there anything you want to do at this stage?

[vita]

Originally Posted by 8ball

And wait, you're on a cougar site asking for advice about an older guy?

I thought that but I thought it churlish to point it out, everyone's entitled to break their own patterns if they want to :P

[valerie]

That may be true Vita, but I confess that my first thought echoed that of 8ball's. SO I wasn't the only one who found it odd.

[lunamor]

Maybe we'll find out in the end that it's actually a story about a 48-year-old woman and a male yoga instructor

[lynda]

Ditto, I noticed the same thing cause all of us think a man 48 is old...

[wetnwild]

Um yeah, WTF? You come onto a cougar site asking for advice about a guy who is 10 years OLDER than you? I think you got it all wrong here. I wouldn't know the first thing about a 48 yr old guy. Except that he's OLD (to ME). Haha!

[phxgirl1]

Same as some of the young men we've had on here asking relationship advice about their young girlfriends. What's with this?

I want to hear about OW/YM success and failure and to give and receive support. Course, just my humble opinion and reason for why I've been here for the last few years.

[ronnybaby]

she hasnt responded, so i assume she now knows what a cougar is...