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[cougar1970]

I met a man at a party last week. The party was a big bash for the closing of a restaurant I was working at.
Let's just say that I am very happy that the restaurant has closed, even though I am now job hunting....I'm sure I will find something...
But I met a man who is 27, I'm 39. I felt that we connected, he's a published writer and I love to write, etc. He is a friend of someone I used to work with.
Anyways, we talked and laughed and he was totally attentive. When I was about to leave and he was trying to get me to stay, parties and drinking all night is not my scene and I told him that. He asked me to go outside with him for a smoke (he smoked, I didnt) and we kissed a little, danced a little...,he wanted me to stay, but I have to admit I was afraid of what I was feeling, havent felt that way in a long time (of course, did not tell him that).
So we exchanged emails and we wrote to each other. The first couple of emails went in depth of how much we both enjoyed each other's company. He asked me when I wanted to see him again, I said maybe Saturday (Jan 23) but he was going away so we made plans to meet on Monday night...I still haven't heard from him.
Don't know what to do.....
Thanks
Laurie

[lynda]

First, I am so sorry this has happened to you. You will soon find out from all the ladies here this is so very normal for guys. They will come on very strong and then when you think all is good they just disappear. For example, I met a guy a couple of weeks ago on here and he did not live to far from me and we emailed back and forth all weekend talking about how great it is to meet someone we might be able to actually see face to face; come Monday morning nothing. I have not heard anything since then so I just mark that one off. You will also have guys that do that and then hear from them months later like we are sitting just waiting for them to call, bullsh#@!! Now you could email or call to find out if something did happen but from experience he will probably give you the run around; give every excuse or just ignore you. How sad that it has happened but have a long cry, pick yourself up, brush yourself off and move on.

[lunamor]

What she said - except the long cry (unless it's looove, a couple of sniffles is enough! ).

[mizbehavin]

Well, men have lives too, so maybe just give him a chance? Would yesterday be the night you were supposed to go out?

[cougar1970]

Thank you ladies....I feel better....

L.

[houstoncougar]

that's my new refrain just screw all of them until they can prove that they are not complete jerks... I hate being ignored most of all!

[wcdan28]

I think it's a little unfair to assume that he is intentionally ignoring you. I don't like making excuses for people but who knows what could be going on with him?

[lunamor]

With all the means of communication at our disposal, the absence of basic information can only be seen as voluntary, which translates as ignoring.

[lynda]

Well said Luna well said.....

[lunamor]

I'm a hardass, and INLGAF