Very clever Nigerian scammer in our midst...

[sweetprince]

sealion: thanks for reminding - if he uses an anonymity software/open relay servers, his IP can be faked. But... but most of emails i got weren't sent this way, so they were 'traceable'

damsel: 1. there are 'redirecting services' in UK/US, you can even have a business office there without even being there Maybe his English was so good because there were Brits there at the beginning of 20th century . Yes, i.e. many American companies moved their call centres to India (ok, it's not Africa but a good example) because people speak there English with proper accent ( I have seen a movie about it (John and jane form Mumbai - or similar title, sorry I can't recollect). Sorry that you are leaving this site (we will be missing you), but it's understandable and your 'I trust nobody' is understandable too. Anyway, good luck (and a Happy New Year)!

OK, as for IP - a small example:

It doesn't matter if it is Windows, Mac and which version (Vista, Windows 7, etc.).

The only thing that matters is that you have to see full email. So I can't figure out what are i.e. your IP becuase GoCougar doesn't show full info.
The easiest way is to open an account at Gmail (google mail), and ask a guy to send a message there. When you log into you Gmail account, open on the email you got from him, and there is usually info from whom it was send, and to whom. A line under "To:" there are following options:
Reply, Reply to all, Forward, Print, Delete, Show original. Click on Show original. and you will see sth like:
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Delivered-To: my_secret_email@gmail.com
Received: by 10.216.163.2 with SMTP id z2cs57350wek;
Sun, 27 Dec 2009 00:07:37 -0800 (PST)
Received: by 10.223.14.13 with SMTP id e13mr9307207faa.85.1261901257136;
Sun, 27 Dec 2009 00:07:37 -0800 (PST)
Return-Path: <elektroda@elektroda.pl>
Received: from poczta.elektroda.pl (elektroda.pl - elektronika, schematy, forum, naprawa, usterki, porady, diy [80.72.46.162])
by mx.google.com with SMTP id f31si15655509fkf.12.2009.12.27.00.07.36;
Sun, 27 Dec 2009 00:07:37 -0800 (PST)
Received-SPF: pass (google.com: best guess record for domain of elektroda@elektroda.pl designates 80.72.46.162 as permitted sender) client-ip=80.72.46.162;
Authentication-Results: mx.google.com; spf=pass (google.com: best guess record for domain of elektroda@elektroda.pl designates 80.72.46.162 as permitted sender) smtp.mail=elektroda@elektroda.pl
Received: (qmail 87646 invoked by uid 80); 27 Dec 2009 09:07:36 +0100
To: my_secret_email@gmail.com
Subject: Witamy na Forum elektroda.pl
X-PHP-Script: elektroda.pl - forum elektroniczne, naprawy, porady serwisowe, usterki sprz?tu, serwis naprawa for 77.114.168.214
Reply-to: elektroda@elektroda.pl
From: elektroda@elektroda.pl
Message-ID: <5e90f0e001da812e40bdedb66571b04c@www.elektroda.pl >
MIME-Version: 1.0
Content-type: text/plain; ch****t=iso-8859-2
Content-transfer-encoding: 8bit
Date: Sun, 27 Dec 2009 09:07:36 +0100
X-Priority: 3
X-MSMail-Priority: Normal
X-Mailer: PHP
X-MimeOLE: Produced By phpBB2


Witamy
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As you can see, there is no X-Origin-From or similar. Well, so look at the last Received: with IP address. In email above these lines:

Received: from poczta.elektroda.pl (elektroda.pl - elektronika, schematy, forum, naprawa, usterki, porady, diy [80.72.46.162])
by mx.google.com with SMTP id f31si15655509fkf.12.2009.12.27.00.07.36;
Sun, 27 Dec 2009 00:07:37 -0800 (PST)

So I know this mail was sent from 80.72.46.162 and I can check with remote.12dt.com/rns that this is:

Results
80.72.46.162 resolves to
"www.elektroda.pl"
Top Level Domain: "elektroda.pl"
Country IP Address: POLAND

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[lynda]

Thanks Sweetprince, you are a mulitude of information. This is the kind of stuff we all need to know.

Damsel: I am sorry you are leaving also but I understand totally why. It is amazing how much we want to trust and believe then one scumbag can come along and destroy that for you and any men that are actually good guys to have the opportunity to know you. You need to heal and have time for yourself. Many blessings.....

[damsel]

Thanks, Lynda

[lunamor]

Damsel, it's understandable how you feel, but don't throw the baby out with the bath water! You got burned but you learned from it, now you're better prepared than you were before, no? For example, you can still contact (and be contacted by) guys, just approach it a bit differently. For example:

- resist melting at a flow of sweet words (and btw, if someone's coming on really strong from the very start, that's already a bit suspect);

- consider limiting your focus to people who can meet you with relatively small difficulty or distance;

- don't let the romance drag on too long or get too intense before actually meeting;

- take everything people say with a grain of salt

I'm sure others could add more, these are the first things that came to my mind - which is now tired, it's bedtime Goodnight!

[lynda]

Luna, you make such good points! I am so glad you are on our side hahaha.

[lunamor]

Ha! Thanks lynda - these points are from personal experience, because I *didn't* always follow them, and learned the hard way myself!

[lonelykid]

my butt is stamped "Made in India"

[wetnwild]

Haha lonelykid! I guess that is one form of "proof"!

[angeldevil]

I had a scammer who said he was in Nigeria and that he loved me and wanted to come see, but when he went to the airport, lo and behold, the ticket prices had gone up and he needed $800.00. His user name on here is Mcanthony, and he says his name is Gabriel Mcanthony Roland. Another one to watch out for.

[lynda]

Ladies, Angeldevil is right, he is on the scam site with the exact same thing that is in his profile and his pic is actually an actor named Gabriel Macht. He got the first name right hahaha. Angeldevil would you please post this in the blog so more ladies can read it cause not all of them come to the forum. You need to report him to admin so his profile is deleted. Thank you for telling us about him with way we can help take care of each other.