Crazy cub

[ultratron]

Call me crazy but why is it so hard for people to just say what they are truly intending. If your just talking to someone for the purpose of sex then say "hey, wanna come back to my place and have yourself some sex?" I mean there is the occasional shut down and i suppose i am lucky cause im attractive. But I usually succeed, and it shows confidence which both men and woman like. Suppose I'm just crazy.


Dan

http://www.gocougar.com/badge/87521/

[8ball]

I've actually said that to someone before...

It got me into a bad situation with her boyfriend...

[houstoncougar]

about this one "my friend bet me I wouldn't have the nerve to follow through on dating a cougar" pretty up front and honest of him I'd say but, I think it was information he should have kept to himself since there will definitely not be a second date.

[dixiediva]

Nothing wrong with it at all. I actually much prefer to be approched that way then wined and dined and then told later he's only after a roll in the hay.

[pn6666]

I like the straight talk, but have never experienced it or maybe I have been fortunate to have real relationships. My first relation to a mature woman started with 3 month holding hands, hocking, light kissing etc. before we ended in her bedroom. It was an explosion for me to strip and take her close off - so we started learning to know each other before sex. I am now looking for my next mature relationship

[njrockercub]

Originally Posted by tarni

No you are not crazy with this line of thinking. If so, then most of us here are crazy and you are in the right place.

Well, this IS the interwebs, no?

Dan - I suppose that could work, but really, women aren't as direct as guys. They'd rather make them work at getting even to first base most of the time. Women get approached by guys a lot, in bars, at work, etc.

It'd sort of be like a telemarketer starting his pitch with "Hi, I'm calling to sell you something that you likely don't need"

There's a fine art of conversation between two people. Perhaps at some point before the night is over and/or heats up, you might want to state that you're not looking for anything serious, as to not mislead the lady you're courting.

Chivalry isn't dead, it's in a coma on life support.

[houstoncougar]

I liked that last line. DD knowing that someone is dating me on a bet tends to take the fire out of all of it for me. I would much prefer someone wining and dining me with the intent of a roll in the hay at least then I would know they were there because they were attracted to me not because they were trying to win a bet.

[princebybirth]

As tantric and rocker said, you need to show tact.

First off... being bold and upright may work at a college frat party but you're interested in a cougar son... there's years of class and intelligence there that younger women are still learning you have to respect that. Let's face it... women love sex just as much as men do, sometimes even more so lol. However, walking up to a woman and saying something stupid like "screw me if i'm wrong, but you want to screw me don't you?" is seen as childish.

By no means am I saying to be dishonest about your intentions, there are some women who are interested in flings with cubs, and your best bet is always honesty. All of the women here said they prefer you to be honest. Like tantric said though, they have barriers and they dont' want to feel cheap, they prefer to be wined and dined with the exception of dixie.. who's just odd =P jk . Seriously though, the main thing is you can't be impatient and rush like that. If the third or fourth thing out of your mouth is I just want to have sex it's rather insulting. It shows you're only interested in one thing and you don't care about who they are as a person.

The advice...
Be interested in who they are... get to know them, if they don't share your outlook on where the relationship should be heading then if nothing else you've made a new friend.

Good luck

[lunamor]

"If your just talking to someone for the purpose of sex then say "hey, wanna come back to my place and have yourself some sex?" I mean there is the occasional shut down and i suppose i am lucky cause im attractive. But I usually succeed"

Probably works well for one-night stands, in any case you're obviously finding like-minded souls - so why the post?

"why is it so hard for people to just say what they are truly intending."

It seems that you might really mean, "Why is it so hard for people to want what you want"? (but if you usually succeed...what's the problem? Just sayin'... ha! )

They may not be brutally direct, but it's been my experience that people usually act in their own interest, so if they want something they do what they need to do (unless they're paralyzed by shyness, or are just generally inept).

[wetnwild]

As usual prince you are spot on. Wish there were more guys like you out there.