help my wife

my wife is a big flirt. she's beautiful, has perfect skin, wears g strings 1 inch wide, its hard to take. she's 40 yrs old. my problem is over the yrs of her flirting with other men, i want her to go all the way with someone and do everything sexually, it's now a big turn on for me. she says she doesn't want too. how can i nudge her that way. she's gone as far as letting someone she barely knows take pictures of her in a very short skirt, one that i could see her tiny g string, that turned me on back then , but i want more. help

Pardon my ignorance but hows that get you going?
whats it feel like? I am not familiar with those feelings well sorta

[jptg]

There's nothing you can do. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

When she says "no" she means it. If you continue to push her to do this, you will ruin things for the both of you. It won't be fun for her to flirt with men any more because she'll know you want her to take things further and not only will that put unwanted pressure on her, it'll make her uncomfortable to be in her own skin.

Women who flirt are after the psychological thrill and ego boost it gives them. It's not really sexual. "Happy chemicals" in her brain are released putting her in a good. Small doses of adrenaline circulate throughout her body making her feel stronger and more alive. These things can lead her to feeling a heightened sense of sexual arousal, but if her brain starts to feel pressured it will stop producing these chemicals as it prepares for the "fight or flight" stage her nervous system is designed to handle.

Why don't you see if she'd be willing to roll play with you? You two could pretend you are strangers, neighbors, whatever. This way you still may be able to trick yourself into feeling as if she is having sex with another guy, even though it is you.

I hope this helped.

Originally Posted by hawk75

Pardon my ignorance but hows that get you going?
whats it feel like? I am not familiar with those feelings well sorta

i've been with her for 19 yrs., believe me back then she was just verbally flirty, it excited me. she's got gorgeous skin, she started wearing mini's, then micro mini's, that excited me. do you see where i'm going, she's kept going up a latter for 19 yrs and now wants to stop, i can handle that, but i burn for more.

Originally Posted by kasi

i've been with her for 19 yrs., believe me back then she was just verbally flirty, it excited me. she's got gorgeous skin, she started wearing mini's, then micro mini's, that excited me. do you see where i'm going, she's kept going up a latter for 19 yrs and now wants to stop, i can handle that, but i burn for more.

Ok Got it...Bit slow on this side.. lol.. well wish i could help best of luck

[bogusfarms]

How can you be sure she's not acting out your fantesy without you knowing about it? Just food for thought.

it's my fantasy, she knows it turns me on, i'm pretty sure she'd tease me with it if she was, but one never knows for sure huh.

thsnks, you sound like a therapist

[cougarfan39]

Personally, I don't think she is cheating or acting on it. It seems maybe she also enjoys the whole "high of the chase" thing or the attention. If she has been honest all along I think you do not have to wonder about it.

[jamesking]

sorry to sound Dr. Drew on you, but 90% of the time if a couple enters another person with them sexually... It ruins the relationship overall. Pushing partners sexually where they don't want to go also can come back later on to haunt you and the relationship.