For the Cougars - a question of age!

[houstoncougar]

that the loss of interest in women starts pretty young at least in my experience. I'd say around the mid thirties most men are way more interested in drinking beer, watching tv (sports), laying on the couch, hanging with their guy friends talking ****. Here's another thing I don't get why do they go to bars, clubs etc. in packs? I don't know about you Sudo but I am very reluctant to approach a man who is with more than one other guy. I have discussed this with a couple of men and have had my suspicions about cock blocking etc. that goes on between men in groups confirmed. Guys can you give me a clue?

[desertfish]

SJ: I'm probably failing to understand the complexity of the female mind right now as I don't see where your comment/advise in regards to shaking off dissapointing relationships comes from. But since you made that statement, can I just say that I totally agree? In fact, I would dare to go a step further... If you're able to to recognise/acccept your own part in the failure (cause lets face it, when a relationship fails it is not always because of one person), it helps you to grow as a person. By doing that, I can safely say that looking back at the relationships I had in the past (and that failed), not a lot of them were as much as a dissapointment as I first thought. If you can learn from your mistakes, I think you're increasing your chances of making the next relationship a success.

[sudojudo]

I know what you meant lunamor, but the way a man behaves and dresses himself is usually an indication of how he feels inside. Actually, this makes me think of one of my uncles: he's 65, wears nothing but jeans and trainers, plays football and basketball with people 30 years younger than he is and still drives his car like a boy racer. If you'd see him and someone told you he just turned 50 you'd probably believe it. If I can manage to be like him 30 years from now I'll be a very happy bunny.

Me's got loads of work to do...

The comment stems from your perception of the work you must do to keep being your attractive self as you age. It has very little to do with how you drive or what you wear. I wasn't suggesting that you have failed past relationships that you are now bitter over...not yet, but if you are older and single (like me) you will have collected a few. The work that needs to be done is internal, I work on that all of the time. I throw my hands in the air and laugh at myself for my choices. And then move on.

So as you get older, you can hit the gym and dress nicely (and please keep your facial hair trimmed, no wigs) but the health of your lust for women has to be cared for starting now... and your Uncle, does he love women, all ages and types?

[desertfish]

lol... I see where you're coming from now. When I said that I got loads of work to do, I meant it as a joke. To be honest, I think that staying young is just a mindset you either have or not and all the rest (dress sence, behaviour, spare time activities) are a result of that.

Anyway, it did spark an exchange of interesting ideas though. I never thought that "the health of lust for women" as you put it was something that needed to be cared for. Again, I always thought you either had it or not. But as HC mentioned, a lot of men in their mid 30's are indeed losing their interest in women. So if its something you can loose, it must also mean its someting you can regain or maintain... I really need to chew that one over for a while though... Might have learned something new today...

Oh... And my uncle has been happily married to my aunt since he was 21. So I'm not sure how he thinks about other women, no matter what age they are. But I'll make it a point of asking him this weekend. Would be interesting to study my aunt's reaction to what he replies...

[ares9]

Oh man I didn't see this poll before I created mine... oh well it's a little different I guess.

[laurier]

I am attracted to younger men....altho men my age and alittle older are just as sexy....there just has to be some attraction on both sides.....

[jc60616]

I prefer YM because they are more open to trying new things - than an OM. I like their enthusiasim and their excitement. However, just because they are young does not guarantee strength and stamina. ;(

[houstoncougar]

girl don'tcha know it. I have had some really bad experiences with a couple of men as young as 20 and I am not just talking stamina. I have written a couple of blogs about this exact problem and have found that I am not alone in my experiences.

[jc60616]

Houstoncougar....thanks for the post...I thought I was the only one experiencing that...hahaha Good to know I am not alone ;p

[ares9]

Ok so according to this poll I'm in hot demand with 31.82% seeking a 35 y/o! The downside is I'm only 35 for one more month... and the curve drops pretty steep between 35-40...