Well hello all....

[ky22]

Don't know why, just thought I'd give this site a try when I saw it online.

Name's Ky. Live in Texas. Always dated and played with owmen older than myself. Extremely annoyed by immaturity and/ or lack of intelligence (hence the dating older women thing). Been told I'm very good looking (I work hard at staying in shape after being overweight as a kid). Work as a personal trainer. Soon to start grad school in neuroscience. Deeply intellectual, spiritual, and comical. Love to laugh Will chat and send pics to anyone who asks nicely.

Just thought I'd say hi!

[ky22]

If any intelligent, lovely woman would like to chat, please feel free to message me.

Ky,
At the risk of sounding *****y, first of all, most of us don't consider ourselves playthings. That shows a level of immaturity and/or lack of emotional intelligence on your part, in my opinion.
Second, we shouldn't have to "ask you nicely" for anything, especially a picture. You are coming across as patronizing. If you are unwilling to show yourself and complete your profile, why would any of us waste our precious time playing head games with you or any other guy here who behaves that way?<shaking my head in disbelief> I have seen this approach used far too many times. Do you somehow believe you are creating mystique? I would like to understand the motivation. If you don't have the consideration to post pictures and complete your profile, I wouldn't expect very much from the fine women here. Just some friendly tips, young man.
Cheers,
Dreamer

[ky22]

Don't read too much into me. You have no idea who I am, what I am about, or how I approach life - your post says as much.

I do not post a pic because I have LITERALLY been stalked before by a woman who happened to recognize me. Thus, I prefer to chat, get to feel comofortable with someone first.

I do not consider women "playthings." I date older woman because those my own age never show the intellectual maturity I need/ want to be happy.

Now, as for you, young lady, I would expect you actually ask some questions or talk to someone before, without any real knowledge of the person at all, making broad and ridiculous assumptions about someone's character.

[ky22]

And I do not mean that post to sound disrespectful. But your automatic assumptions of who I am, based on little more than the fact that I am a male, is exactly the kind of reason that I don't usually date women my own age.

Gee....you're sure getting your knickers in a knot there, Ky. Did I hit a nerve? lol. Mighty defensive. I have heard this same justification over and over and over again from sooooo many of the young men who come on here with little or no info about themselves posted and no pictures. I always get the same response too. "You don't know me." Well, of course I don't....lol. How can I when you hold back crucial information and visuals that would give me the tools I need to see and understand who you really are? It has absolutely "nothing" to do with you being male and everything to do with wanting information.

You are the one who said you like to "play" with older women. We aren't dolls, you know. We're flesh and blood human beings with lives, passions, dreams, ambitions and goals. Also, most of us have little or no time for guessing games.

Why should we have to "ask" at all for your picture or any other pertinent info about you? You should be more than willing to post it on your profile. As for being stalked, do you actually think you're the only one who has ever been subjected to that? I could tell you a few hair-raising stories of my own, yet I have 5 or 6 photos posted and a fully detailed profile summary filled out.

My advice to you was made in a friendly manner and I was/am curious as to why this scenario keeps coming up again and again and again with so many of you younger guys.

Where is your concern for what the woman might want or be comfortable with? Seems pretty self-centered and very one-sided to me. Profiles are provided for a reason. It gives all of us a chance to "evaluate" if we even want to start a conversation or chat with someone. How do any of us "evaluate" with no visuals or pertinent info?

Most of the "mature" women here won't be bothered with someone who hasn't taken the time to give us "something" to evaluate with. Why bother being on a dating site at all if you won't show yourself? That was/is my question.
Cheers,
Dreamer

[ky22]

I show enough on my profile for anyone interested. I do not believe someone is going to get anything close to a decent graps of who I am by reading a paragraph. They would do much better by taking five minutes to chat.

Yes, I am defensive. Yes you hit a nerve - because woman like yourself like to paint a broad picture and assume they are right with little to nothing to back them up (in my experiecne, at least). I keep an open mind to people. I don't try to judge who they are before I know anything about them - I suggest you do the same.

If a woman wants to be comofrtable with me, there is no harm in anonymousley chatting online. If she feels comfortable enough to ask me for apic later, fine. If not, ok.

Your "advice" was not in any manner I consider friendly. You offer little advice at all, but instead allow a space for yourself to vent frustrations you have at males toher than myself - and yet you direct your frustration at me; that is a confusing little bit.

Seeing a picture of me wouldn't "give you crucial visuals that would give you the tools you need to understand who I really am." Giving you a pic would give you a pic. As I've said, I have literally been stalked by a woman before who recognized a pic of me online, as I lived int he same town as her. It was a bothersome experience. Therefore, I withold pics to some degree. Simple.

If the little you see on my profile does not interest you, then don't ask more. If it does, then do. Again, simple. I do not expect to be able to read a profile and completley grasp who a woman is, nor do I care to chat at length with any woman who believes she can see who I am by reading a paragraph or so.

Now, I want to say I DO understand where you are coming from. BUT, you need to 1) keep an open mind, instead of assuming right off the bat, and 2) keep in mind that an internet message board is a severely poor place to get a read on anyone's intent (tone of voice, attitude, etc are not well communicated though written word).

~Ky