Another survey

[blueize]

I'm still bored. Okay so here's the other burning question. Statistics show that 75% of women don't have orgasms. (Clearly not the bunch reading Cosmo)

Statistics also show that 75% of men don't know where a clitoris is. (Accent on the first syllable)Funny how those number are the same.

So just out of curiosity, are there any guys out there who absolutely know for certain where this little wishbone-shaped honey-dart is at? Yeah, the whole thing (you can't see most of it) is actually wishbone shaped. Ironic? Hmmmnn, I think not.

[sweetprince]

Well, you can teach him...

[robbrown]

Blueize, that's two facts that I find almost unbelievable

When you say 75% of woman don't have an orgasm do you mean when making love or do you mean at all, because there is a difference! Many moons ago my ex-wife’s friend was telling her how she never had an orgasm during sex with her boyfriend although she could when 'home alone'. My answer was 'well why doesn't she teach him to do to her what she does to herself?' For them that was the problem, he just didn't do what she needed him to do. This was coupled with the fact that she didn't feel comfortable talking to her partner about it. Eventually, after careful direction from her, she was able to reach that magic point!

Of those 75% it would be easy to say that the fault lies with their partner, but let’s face it us men aren't mind readers! And you woman are not all the same either, so what drives one women to multiple orgasms may leave another feeling like she'd rather bake a cake.

I think one of the biggest hang-ups about achieving satisfying sex is communication as us men don't often respond well to 'no, you're not doing that right!'. However, once a couple starts to communicate and listen to what each other likes then things can only get better.

It’s a bit like using Photoshop; bloody confusing at first, but with the right direction the results can be fantastic

As for 75% of men not knowing where a clitoris is - is that for real? I can only assume they surveyed men who view sex as a one-way thing! Having said that, apparently many men don't know where the G-Spot is either - their partners or their own!!

Without going into too much detail, I can see no better way of bringing lovemaking to an end than with an explosive clitoral orgasm - especially if it has been preceded by a few orgasms achieved in other ways

Rob

[robbrown]

Oh, and another survey showed that around 80% of men who have a foreskin fail to wash under it regularly

Maybe they are the same men that haven't the experience to know what a clitoris is

[energeticmale]

I find it hard to believe a lot of those surveys because you hear about a new one every week and the numbers are so up and down. Others will say that 20% of women can't orgasm and that most don't during sex without clitoral stimulation, etc. I do know where the clit is and yes most of it is hidden which is why oral is so much fun!

[houstoncougar]

a medically proven fact that about 90% or more of women can not reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation. If experience counts for anything than I can say that most guys are only worried about their own orgasm and could care less about percentages, clitoral location or stimulation and probably only wonder if a gspot is anything more than a new place to hang out and play pool. As much as you would like to believe that men are as wonderful and caring in bed as you are Rob it just ain't happening.

[blueize]

The statistics used to be 80% of women can't, then 75% of women can't. The newer statistics from the Kinsey report show that the frequency of women's orgasms varies: it is dependent on their being with a long-term partner, being with a short term partner, or being alone. There is still quite a gap, but it has improved some.

I agree with Robbrown's opinion that men shouldn't have to be mind-readers. Too many women hope their partner magically knows what works and what doesn't.

I suspect that most women won't have those kinds of conversations with men unless they're in a long-term relationship. Communication is the key -as you said. So short term encounters or relationships leave both parties without much new info.

I think this is why men are far more interested in NSA sex than women are. If 20 couples (who don't really know each other) pair up and have casual sex, the most likely result is that only some of them are having orgasms - all 10 of the guys and few of the women.

Men's magazines used to be very hobby oriented. With more of them being somewhat socially oriented, it is possible that some better info is going out to the guys who read.

I would love to find a partner for a relationship that involved cooking, outdoor play, and lots of sex, but too many guys are just looking to scratch an itch, and guys who don't want to be in a relationship don't have time to learn to scratch back.

[houstoncougar]

I would bet that some women even lie and say that yes they do and they don't... I agree that most men are only out to scratch an itch and I don't want to be the hand that does the scratching so to speak. I don't understand why it is soooo hard to find someone who just wants to hang out, cook, watch movies, go out to dinner, the beach stuff like that and have a wonderful sexual exploration partnership. Oh wait yes I do, they don't even want to put in that little bit of effort!

[snowboardmitch]

i think maybe the reason 75% of guys don't "know" where it is, is because alot dont really do the whole foreplay. I believe that its just as important as the actual act, and sometimes just as good. because if the more you know your partner and what their "buttons" are, so to speak, the better the sex is for both of you, because i dont know about the other guys out there, but seeing the woman im in bed with loving every millisecond of my action, that makes my experience that much better because i know that ive accomplished my goal, to please my partner. i will say this though, ive gotten the raw end of the deal once and my gf finished before i did, and that sucks ladies, i feel your pain. but guys get blue balls.....enough said haha

[snowboardmitch]

and you know what, guys are fantastic cooks too, just we dont use recipe books
imagination is my recipe and they always turn out delicious!