Moderating, being a member and my relationship

[buni]

I was just thinking that since I am in a very serious relationship now that I shouldn't really be posting here. I'm not looking for anyone anymore. I know that if my honey was a member of a site like this that I wouldn't be too happy.....
What do you all think? I personally think that I need to give this up now....I've enjoyed getting to know everyone and helping those who I could, but I think it is time for me to move on....

[robbrown]

As to whether or not you should stay then that's a hard one! On one hand there is the issue that you are a moderator and not just a normal member, and therefore your time here could be seen as time spent helping other women find what they themselves are looking for. On the other hand I can see why your partner may not like the fact that you are on a forum where there are younger men looking to chat you up!

Only you can make the choice, but whatever you do Good Luck in your relationship Buni; I hope it goes well and proves to be all that you were looking for

Rob

[energeticmale]

I don't see a problem with posting on the site and helping to moderate. You're just chatting with others and discussing the cougar lifestyle and giving good advice. If I were your boyfriend I'd only be upset if you were flirting with other men and actively searching for someone on the side.

[houstoncougar]

with energetic since you are a moderator it's different than if you were actively looking for a guy. But if I were in a relationship I would not want my guy on any dating site... hmmm it is a quandary. Discuss it with him and see if you can stay a moderator and turn off your profile!

[totage]

I agree, if you're in a relationship you shouldn't be on a site like this. However, I think there's an exception when you're staff.

[blueize]

Would he be interested in helping you moderate, or is that too much of a hassle? He can read your posts, so he doesn't have reason to be jealous.

[boredstudent89]

I don't see why you can't still post and moderate here.. just make your main profile thing inactive, there is a difference between being part of the community and actively seeking someone to date in the community.

[boredstudent89]

At the end of the day its your choice, but if he doesn't trust you to talk to people on here does that mean he wouldn't trust you to talk to people in, I dunno, a café or at work?

Seems slightly weird but whatever, if you do leave here then I wish you the best of luck with your relationship.

[buni]

He trusts me....I am the one feeling kind of bad for being on a site like this now that I have him.....It isn't that I am tempted or anything because I am not tempted at all..i just know that it would bother me if he was doing this type of thing.