Advice needed

[hotchick]

Hi
I'm new to this site and till a few months ago had no idea what a cougar was! I was looking for advice on older women and younger men relationships and then discovered that I was a cougar!
My problem is that the man I'm in love with can't handle the age difference, it doesn't happen in his culture apparently. I admit that I have persude him for a year, he knew the age difference and we had met before. We communicated by text, email and phone and he would tell me that he loved me and missed me. We recently spent a week together which was bliss. But since then he's been really cool to me, just wants to be friends, wishes he was 15 years older so as we could be together (!'m 52 and he's 32) Which makes me think he has feelings for me
Is there any point in trying to hang in there?

[buni]

First of all welcome to the forums.
Since I don't know what his culture is I really can't give much advice, but I'm wondering if maybe he had second thoughts after you spent time together? I hate to think that is what happened but it does happen.
It wouldn't hurt to try and talk to him one last time, but if someone doesn't want something you really can't force them to want it...I know it will be difficult to move on but at some point you really should....Heck..this site is full of young men just anxious to meet cougars...Maybe try talking to someone here to get your mind off of him...
Please stick around and let us know how things go...Either way...we will be here for you to talk to.
Wish you the best of luck.((hugs))

[robhilly]

I agree with buni. There are a lot of good gentlemen on this site that would love to talk to a woman like yourself. Try going on the main site and checking out the other profiles and see if any catch your eye. Hope you find what you are looking for!

By the way, here is my profile:

goCougar - Member's profile - Where older women date younger men

[hotchick]

Thankyou!
I think he probably did have second thoughts after we spent time together, his culture is Peruvian by the way. And Peru is where he is, so he's a long way away. But he says I'm his best friend and it's the bit about wanting to be older so as we could be together that makes me keep thinking he has feelings and I shouldn't give up on him yet!
I am meeting other guys but he's still the one for me at present!!!

[genevieve717]

Originally Posted by hotchick

Thankyou!
I think he probably did have second thoughts after we spent time together, his culture is Peruvian by the way. And Peru is where he is, so he's a long way away. But he says I'm his best friend and it's the bit about wanting to be older so as we could be together that makes me keep thinking he has feelings and I shouldn't give up on him yet!
I am meeting other guys but he's still the one for me at present!!!

My ex-husband is Peruvian. Born there, raised there. I'm older than he is. I think the age/culture excuse is baloney, sorry. Sounds like a convenient way for him to get out of something other than friendship with you. If the age difference bothers him this much now, it probably won't get better with time. You also mention long distance, and that is also something he could turn into a negative factor. Of course, I'm sure there are more details we are not aware of at play here, and ultimately you have to do what you feel is best for the situation. But, if it were me, I'd do what I could to move on.

Also, just to mention. Years ago I lived next door to a couple. The woman was Peruvian, in her 50s and her partner was an American young man in his mid 20s.

[dateseeker]

Never give up. You don't know how far it could go until you try. Always give things a chance.

[hotchick]

thankyou dateseeker! I certainly don't want to give up on him if there is a chance! Think I have to wait and see what happens when we spend 2 weeks together in the summer as I'm going to Peru to travel with him!