My mom is freaking out about my 26 year old boyfriend

[lunamor]

Ohio, from my POV, guys with real fetishes are generally PITA.

[houstoncougar]

what does PITA mean? IMO the men I have met with real fetishes were very tiring, boring and just downright unsatisfying to be around. As a good example it's one thing to like feet it's another thing to have to have a foot job to get off all the time...

[islandhopper]

# wtf pita
PITA: pain in the ass

[beaw]

Originally Posted by lunamor

Beaw, I've got to take issue with this. I really don't think "cougars" exist at all: there are simply women who have an open mind, and women who do not.

Thanks Lunamor. I get it. It's not about age but about openmindedness!

Originally Posted by houstoncougar

not sure where to start here. I understand what you mean by run of the mill now but, I think what you really mean is "close minded" women and there are lots of those in any age bracket. The whole concept of cougarism is not that old and I agree that it is a Hollywood media hype. I also understand the idea of a fetish and have met people who have them and yes, it is all about the fetish not the person they are with. But, in no way do I consider ow/ym relationships a fetish and I only want to date men under say 35. I have exclusively dated younger men my whole dating life and everyone (society) seems to think that all of this is a fad or, that I can change the way I feel. I have to state here that this is the way I am hardwired the same way I believe gay people are hardwired to be gay. It is not something environmental or a choice it's just the way I am. I am sure that there are lots of real cougars (lol) who by choice will only date guys under 25 and use them specifically for sex but, that doesn't define all older women who are attracted to younger men.

(all emphases, mine)

I have to state here that this is the way I am hardwired the same way I believe gay people are hardwired to be gay.

Thanks for this great thought, HC. I believe I'm hardwired to be attracted to older women too and just the same way as sex doesn't drive all attractions of older women towards younger men, I'm also not attracted to older women just for sex.

I see clearly now that I'm also hardwired that way! It's such a relief, because it makes me a lot more tolerant and understanding in relating with younger women.

[houstoncougar]

just happy i haven't come across to many PITA's!!!

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