Cougars vs. sugar mommas

[houstoncougar]

I think you're right on that aspect. A lot of older women myself included are very nurturing people but there's a fine line to be drawn in all of this. Sudojudo I can laugh at myself but I refuse to support a younger guy. If he wants to mooch he can do it with someone else, I don't have the income to be that kind of woman nor would I want to. I seem to attract the one nighter kind of younger men or a certain type that is almost what some might consider nerdy. I am very much into slightly off beat guys with a lot to say and usually they have pretty good tech or jobs in the oil business here which means they have their own incomes and don't mind buying me dinner and having me in their bed in their own apts. so our relationships seem to last longer that way.

[haberdasher]

Why is it that it is cool if a man financially supports a woman, whether a steady girlfriend or a wife, for years and years, but suddenly if a man expects to be supported, he is a 'moocher' or some kind of a lowlife. Come on people get with the program. You want a 21st century lifestyle and you're living by 20th century rules. Times are a-changin'. You know what, if that is the rule, then the men have been getting played for centuries, and it is time to start a revolution.

[buni]

I would support a guy if we were in a relationship. I mean nobody wants a moocher, and supporting someone else doesn't necessarily mean that they are mooching.

[houstoncougar]

never said it was cool for a guy to support a woman hd. I am not old fashioned at all but I have never been supported by any man besides my father and wouldn't expect my daughter to live that way either cuz guess what... you can't rely on anyone but your own damn self. No one should live off of another person they need to be a grown up and make their own damn way in the world it teaches you the value of intrinsic reward. Sounds to me like you have been used and didn't like it. I refuse to support anyone but my own child but that doesn't mean I wouldn't give what was needed in a "real life loving relationship" what they are talking about on here is the difference between an ow/ym relationship and a sugar momma boytoy thing. Oh and Buni if you are supporting someone what is it they are doing... if they are in school or something like that and living with you I wouldn't consider that mooching what I am talking about is someone who sits on their ass all day watching tv and playing video games while you are working to pay the rent, utilities and grocery bill.

[sudojudo]

Originally Posted by haberdasher

Why is it that it is cool if a man financially supports a woman, whether a steady girlfriend or a wife, for years and years, but suddenly if a man expects to be supported, he is a 'moocher' or some kind of a lowlife. Come on people get with the program. You want a 21st century lifestyle and you're living by 20th century rules. Times are a-changin'. You know what, if that is the rule, then the men have been getting played for centuries, and it is time to start a revolution.

I have zero respect for a women who doesn't support herself... and don't even enclude wives and mothers under that rule, they are full time contributors. My ex was a mooch because he didn't bring anything to the table, even after I gave him clear ideas on the things I wanted (Hot Tamales...ummm). There are lots of ways to give that don't cost a bunch of money.

[lucky_u]

I am an active daddy ... Seeking an active mama....40 plus...high preference !!

[jordane]

I wouldn't label the sugar momma/daddy relationship scenario as direct prostitution. However, in my opinion it is definitely a grey area, which I would personally be fairly uncomfortable with. The entire basis for the title implies monetary or material compensation in exchange for companionship.

I find it difficult to romanticize that kind of relationship, as it is dominantly built upon lust and/or desperation. Very little if any romantic involvement can be expected by the receiving party when their contribution is defined by the relationship as being over as soon as the metaphorical well dries up.

Perhaps my ideals are a little “old fashion” but I personally do not believe that the obligation of “Goods for Services” has a viable role in a relationship.


Sorry if this might have affended anyone.

[lunamor]

sweetprince, I've seen several profiles where "long term" commitment is heavily emphasized. I meant that short-term relationships can be important, too. I wasn't really talking about one-night stands.

[houstoncougar]

I like the way you think!

[jordane]

Thank you.