Head Games

[buni]

Ok, I've only been here for a while and so far I have had quite a few guys start talking to me, calling and texting me and chatting online with me.
Most of the guys seem sweet and caring but then something makes them decide that they are confused about what they really want. I also think that some of these guys are testing me to see how far I'll go with them and others say they want to be with me in a relationship and all that stuff...but actions speak louder than words.

I just want to say something to any man who approaches me on here.
Please don't try playing head games with me.
Don't tell me you adore me and would like to have a relationship with me unless you know that is what you really want. You need to know what it is that you want before you approach me or any other cougar.
I don't want my time wasted. I have made it clear from day one on my profile and on here that I am looking for something serious and lasting.
I deserve respect and to not have my head played with.
I tend to get attached to people easily but don't think I am weak. I have no problems dropping you like a hot potato if you mess with my head.

If friendship is all you want from me that is ok. I like having friends.
I just don't want any head games.

Once again..If you contact me please know what you want. No games. I mean it.

[buni]

I hear ya. I've decided that I am not going to share anything with anyone anymore or talk to them about anything serious unless they are within meeting distance.

[milfhunter1]

They will tell you anything to get there way with you on the webcam lol. Even if you said the first time you's started talking that you didnt do that sort of thing, they tell you they want to meet you and spend the rest of ther life with you in the hope you will all of a sudden change your mind because your 'going to be together soon anyway'. These are the type that give us honest lads a bad name haha.

[milfhunter1]

your right but i would say that about 90% of the time its like this as there are some guys out there who would actually travel to go and see them.

[sbrdbnt]

Sounds like you've been talking to "kids". What has been the general age range of these guys?

Although age is no indicator of maturity, bad apples usually spoil the bunch.

[houstoncougar]

time I get suckered into talking to someone who lives out of state, hell out of a 100 mile radius it turns into the whole online, play with your heart and mind game bull$hit. The guy's age really has no bearing on it whatsoever. Sure it's unrealistic to expect a 20 year old to really know what he wants and to be able to have the freedom and funds to even try to visit. But good gosh I have had a 34 year old guy, who only lives in Dallas (about 5 hours away driving time) who has been texting me on and off for over six months I say hi and that's it because I know it's not going any further. You're right Buni they need to know wtf they want but unfortunately most don't. Tarni's right and believe me as long as she and I have been on here along with a few other ladies we can run the whole gambit by you and probably let you know who's who and what's what if you just give up their sn's before you even think about seriously talking to them. If it seems to good to be true it is.

[buni]

I'm going to start doing that from now on. I appreciate it ladies.
Times like this when that 'ladies only' forum could be put to good use...what ya think tarni?

[klasik]

But what kind of relationship counts as long term? I for one know there is NO WAY I'd get married until I was through with college, at least. But I'm not the type for short flings either. Most of my (successful) relationshipships have been for 3-6 months. Does that count as long term?

[buni]

Long term is years, not months. I don't want to be with someone for just a few months....to me that is just considered 'messing around' and I am not looking for that type of relationship.

[ruready01]

buni- what are you looking for in a long term relationship ???