Are your family against older woman / younger men?

[robbrown]

Are there any cougars that have had negative experiences from their family over their younger man? If so have you just left your family to deal with it while you enjoy life? Or maybe a relationship with your cub/gazelle (I don't really know the correct term!!) was actually affected to the point that it ended?

The reason for asking is that when I first introduced my partner to my family I hadn't told them she was older and I could see in their faces a kind of 'Oh, she's older than you' expression. I get the feeling is wasn't from the 'he is with an older woman' viewpoint but more the 'she is with a younger man' one (if that makes sense?). They have never mentioned it and are seemingly not against our relationship in any way, but it does make me wonder if some families would be?

Rob

Edited to add: Sorry if this has been asked before! If that's the case then please point me in the right direction . .

i say you do what you feel inside,its your life and lifes about being happy

[buni]

My family wants me to be happy no matter what and they know I am into younger men. My sister is quite a bit older than her hubby and they are very very happy.
My brothers have both been with women way older than them too so they don't judge me either.
I guess I am lucky.

I did have a problem with a guys mother who is only 4 years older than me..She thought I was only 30 (her son is 23). She got mad about me sending him a gift once and wanted to tell me to 'back off of her son'...I can only imagine what she would have done if she would have known I was actually 40...lol ah well....I'm not going to be in a relationship with him anyway, he and I are just friends. *sigh*

[buni]

You would think. And yup...she wanted me to back off of him.
His momma is the main reason I cannot have a relationship with him. He moved back in with her and reverted to being a 'little boy'..he even lost his job and has no ambition to move out or anything anymore.....*sigh*

[erosceko]

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[houstoncougar]

was 8 years older than my husband whom I met when he was 17. Because I thought he needed to experience other relationships I left him alone for a few years and even ran away with a guitar player in a punk band. lol But, as soon as I came back to Houston we got back together and he begged me to marry him. I was 30 and he was 22 and his mother hated me and I mean that quite literally. When she found out I was pregnant she tried very hard to make things right but it never quite rang true. My husband died when my daughter was four and I made the effort to stay friends with her until the day she didn't show up to my daughter's graduation because get this... she had given me the wrong address for one of her son's and he never got an invite. So, instead of calling me they just didn't show up to her high school graduation ceremony or party! I never forgave her and sadly to say neither has my daughter who is her only grand daughter, her son's only child and the oldest of her three natural grandchildren. As a mother I would bet that it is one of her biggest life regrets and that she thinks about it all the time. I have spoken with her since that is how I found out about the wrong address situation and I told her I would talk to my daughter and I did but she will not call her grandmother and I don't feel it is my business to force the issue. Hurt runs very deep in women and karma plays a huge role in our lives but no one ever loved her son the way I did. I see the proof everyday in my daughter's beautiful face and I bet my mother in law would give anything to be able to see it too.

[buni]

My heart is aching right now...I'm sorry your husband passed away when your girl was so young.
His mom probably does think about it all the time.

I don't know why people have to be so stupid sometimes. All those years could have been spent so differently and been happy times....*sigh*

[dancetoday]

My husband was seven years younger than me and people didn't really know it, from looking at us. It didn't hurt that I had a baby without assistance at age 45, I guess. But then when I told my daughter (not that baby, she's my oldest) that guys her age had messaged me on the internet, she was really shocked. She and my boys would not approve. I'm not sure my mother would notice at her age....

[houstoncougar]

I was 25 I looked a bit like a 14 year old boy since I never wore makeup and had very short punk styled hair cuts. I have always looked at least ten if not more years younger than I am and my mother in law thought I was only about 4 years older than he was because I could go to the bar. It was when he told her how old I was that she really flipped out. I just think that some people can not wrap their small brains around the idea that there is nothing wrong with age gap relationships. Even though they aren't any different than gays or inter racial relationships but then lot's of people don't accept them as couples either.

[buni]

edited for person reasons...