advice for a complete dating novice

[startpoint]

Hello, belive it or not but I am thirty one and have never had a long term relationship only ones lating mere days. I never seemed to say or do the right thing. Need I add that those were with girls my own age. What would a woman expect of me in a relationship? How do I avoid my last mistake with an older woman. I think she expected a young stud but refusued to belive it was my first time which led to great disapointment on both our parts not to mention the end of that brief relationship.

[lunamor]

I've got no advice, but I can tell you that for me it's a real red flag when someone reaches their late 20's or beyond and has never had any kind of relationship other than very short term.
I once knew a 27-year old virgin (sexually and relationship-wise), he was very sweet, we became very close and were together for almost 2 years, but once he felt less f*cked up and more fixed-up, he wanted to move on.
So now I don't take on similar 'human recuperation projects", although among the cougar-seeking crowd, there are a LOT of them.

[startpoint]

Dear Lunamoor, It was not my fault that my attempts at relationships failed. The women I chose tended to use my good nature to their advantage, ie used me as a taxi service. I am not fxxcked up as you put it but very shy. If I were to enter a relationship then I would work hard at it but considering the men I see in long term relationships, I am doing nothing wrong by wanting to treat a woman as a person. Thank you Tarni for your kind advice.

[startpoint]

Just a second thought on the subject. As I live on a isolated farm it is difficult to meet women and not everyone likes the countryside and horses. My last attempt at a girlfreind ended up as a good friendship and I am curerntly trying to help her deal with a problem boyfriend. So you see I do not expect a woman to treat me as a relationship virgin but to realise I do not come with the experience to deal with difficult situations that I am sure arise in a long term relationship.

[lunamor]

Startpoint, re-read what I wrote - I don't know if you're f*cked up or not, I didn't comment on you personally, I talked about what I see as red flags.

[startpoint]

Tarni, I see your point. I am friends with just one of my exes , a Bulgarian girl. I offer her support in her relationship difficulties and she has been very supportive of me at times. I think you re right to point out that there are limits to this. Lunamor, please excuse me. I do tend to mis-read posts due to being dyslexic, bear with me.

[startpoint]

Hey Tarni, it works! Dear Lunamoor, seeing as you live in Italy, what do you think about the films of Federico Fellini? Amacord, La Docle Vita or my favorite, Eigh and a half.

[lunamor]

Startpoint, I haven't seen all of Fellini's films but I liked the ones I've seen (Amarcord, La Dolce Vita, La Strada, Fred and Ginger, Nights of Cabiria). La Strada is especially wonderful, and it stars his wife, Giulietta Masina (as does Nights of Cabiria).

I could watch La Dolce Vita a hundred times because of Marcello Mastroianni, whom I absolutely adore and would watch in any film by any director.

[startpoint]

Lunamoor, I know what you mean. The foutain scenes are spectacular, a wonderfull film. No one does emotions on film like the Italians.

[twigs1984]

You should try being a #$% hole sometimes.

Seems to work. I don't understand why. but it does.

Just randomly also. but you have to already be in the relationship for it to work.

cant just walk up to a gal and say "make me a sammich"


Err longest relationship i had was 7 years. from 15-21yo.

im 24 now.