Am I a cougar?

[cute_male]

Originally Posted by darkly1

when your boyfriend asks you if Princess Di's death was that big of a deal it makes one feel awkward!

=)

you gave me a flashback of my birthday, i.e diana's funeral , the whole of the uk closed

[valerie]

Awww Chilled....you seem to think almost EVERYTHING is sexy! LOL MUAH!

[cherryaa]

cute_male - for one awful moment I thought you meant that was the day you were actually born. Boy did that make me feel old !

[cute_male]

nope, her funeral was on my birthday , was horrible, but im not making her death about me x

[darkly1]

Thank you, everyone, for your responses! Whether I am in cougar in training that is possible... but I am hoping that by the time I am 50 I will be happily married and out of the dating scene (have never been a big fan of it).

Also thanks for the contributions on what exactly a cougar is. My experience with older women dating younger men has been limited to... me. I know of no one besides myself who is female and has dated down in age. One of my clients mentioned to me her mother's husband is 15 years younger than the mom... and on another forum I know a poster who is 60+ and has adopted an I just want to have fun attitude. She is juggling 3 younger men right now, although all her "cubs" are married. >_< But those two are my experience of knowing older women with younger men.

As it is, most of the vibes I get is that of a stigma, especially from my mom. She likes to pretend that my current relationship status doesn't exist, but she is getting better.

C_M, that sucks about your birthday! Princess Di's death is one of 3 major world events that I remember exactly where I was when it happened. Having your birthday on her funeral is like getting married on Sept. 11 or being born on Christmas.

Valerie, thank you for mentioning Ageless, I started posting there yesterday.

[phxgirl1]

darkly1, I'm sorry your mother isn't as supportive as she should be in your current relationship. I am very fortunate myself that the majority of my family has been only encouraging to me and I am 49. My mom and youngest sister/her husband too are my best fans, in fact my little sis and her hubby searched this site for me as the best, go figure that one out!

Here, we have all kinds and a lot of us are looking for relationships, not necessarily marriage as we're established in our own lives and careers, not disillusioned. But we are not closed to the possibility. Then of course, there are those only looking for hookups and some of us are struggling very hard to be accepting of that attitude.

So in a nutshell, welcome to the madness here.

[cute_male]

Originally Posted by darkly1

C_M, that sucks about your birthday! Princess Di's death is one of 3 major world events that I remember exactly where I was when it happened. Having your birthday on her funeral is like getting married on Sept. 11 or being born on Christmas.

Valerie, thank you for mentioning Ageless, I started posting there yesterday.

you dont wanna spend your birthday watching a nation cry while your like "its my birthday" lol horrible day

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by cute_male

you dont wanna spend your birthday watching a nation cry while your like "its my birthday"

Yeah, dontcha just hate it when that happens?

[houstoncougar]

Welcome darkly. I met my deceased husband when he was 17 and I was 25 and we got married five years later after a few years of being apart. I wanted him to sow his oats so to speak which he did lol and then we were married. I agree with the other ladies that it is not really that big of an age difference when you are older but as of now I suppose that it will take some getting used to by family and friends. Just remember that for the both of you it's right now and that right now is really all that matters.

[oscarete]

Cougar just a label, do not have to worry about it. If you have a good relationship with your boyfried, thats it. For sure would be some awkward situations, but in other relationships "traditional relationships" you will find more problems than awkward situations, if your problem is that, just try to handle the best way as possible and go on.