hello 24 y/o male from southern California

[stout890]

hello, i came across this site because i knew there had to be something out here for men like me lol and a Google search did the trick! but where are all the feisty cougars in the antelope Vally? any advice for a cub like me on how to let the women know i'm interested? and just curious, are most women on here looking for love or lust?
thanks everyone,

[lynda]

Hello stout and welcome to the forum. Please post a pic cause we like to see who we are talking to. I think you will find that people are on this site for many different reason but most of the ladies are looking for something with substance. Interested in a lady on here just send her a PM. Lots of friends can be made here, enjoy.

[stout890]

thanks lynda for the tips, and the warm welcome. ill be sure to get a picture up as soon as i can figure it out lol. this is a vary different forum than i'm used to using. well substance is always good, i guess i'm just trying to find out where i stand in this as well. in my experience with women older than me is that they like to keep it casual. i find myself o.k with that as i am not looking to settle down yet at this point in my life and i feel as though they don't want to be seen in public holding hands and showing affection with a younger man that looks to be her son. now i know there has to be some women out there who are looking for a real relationships with younger men, but are the men like me that are looking for casual relationships looked down upon and criticized as being dirty horn dogs who will never be taken seriously by a mature woman?

[lynda]

Go check out the thread for Newbies that is listed in intro forum it should help you if not just ask. I don't know who you been hanging with but you will find that most of us ladies here do not care what people think out in public. For me dating a younger man means doing all the same things that you do on a normal date, holding hands, hugging, a little kiss, walking arm in arm all in public. Even-tho most of us ladies look for relationships with the cubs it is not unusual for you to feel that you do want something more casual but just be sure and be honest with a cougar and she can make the decision if she wants to see you or not. Nothing makes a cougar madder and her claws come out is to be led on, put down, or game playing. lol I hope this is helping a little.

PS.....I just finished posting and noticed you had figured out the photo thingy but where is the rest of the pic? The eyes are the window to the soul....

[wetnwild]

Ditto Lynda, couldn't have said it better myself. I for one, could care less what the public thinks when I am out with a young guy. And if they want to stare I am definitely going to give them something to stare at (and I HAVE!)

And you're right too, a lot of us do look for a real relationship but there are some ladies on here who are just looking to keep it casual.

And yes, stout, where is the rest of your pic? Do you have something to hide, hmmm??

[stout890]

well ladies i fixed my picture and wetnwild, there is nothing to hide! and lynda thanks for all the advice and tips, it all started to click once i realized that it was actually 2 profiles. i did a search in my area and i got 3 profiles lol looks like i'm gonna have to start finding a way to help this site advertise in my area!.

[houstoncougar]

and I find it is usually the guys who don't want PDA's not the women...

[lynda]

Stout, I like the new pic good choice. You will find that if you ask for advice or any question one of us will answer it may not be what you expect but it will get answered. haha

[lunamor]

Originally Posted by stout890

are the men like me that are looking for casual relationships looked down upon and criticized as being dirty horn dogs who will never be taken seriously by a mature woman?

This made me laugh because of the wording, and because it's basically true!

Probably because "casual relationship" is sooo often code for "I just wanna get my rocks off - no caring - no involvement". Of course, not every relationship "goes somewhere" but we like to keep options open and at least see where it CAN go: most women don't appreciate a clear "dead end" which is why many would steer clear of a guy who's only looking for "casual".

[stout890]

there not always like that lunamor. i was seeing a 42 y/o woman last year for about 8 months till i had to move, but she VP for a credit union and was vary busy but i would come over and just hang out. we'd play wii or watch movies, talk, cook dinner together, or smoke weed (thats how i meet her lol) and we didn't have sex every time i came over either but when we did it was amazing! and we'd lay there and cuddle talk what ever after but in all that we kept it a "somewhat" open ended relationship. we both had an understanding that either one of us could end it when ever no hard feelings. we did agree to be monogamous though, i don't do no dubble dippy's you know lol. we rarely went out and if we did is was as friends. it was a turn on that it was a bit secret too i guess i dunno. we had a good time she was awesome i could talk to her about anything. she was almost like a second mom too me, does that sound weird or what lol either way "casual" doesn't always mean i don't care........

p.s what are PDA's houstencougar?