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johnexx1 · #1 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 08:43 PM

Hi everybody,

My name is John and just wanted to add my two cents to all of the Cougar/Cub phenomenon that has been going on lately. Just wanted to let some of you know that this is nothing new. Although it does seem more "wide open" today. In 1981, I was a 19 year old cub that had a fling with a 42 yr. old "married" cougar. After that, I was hooked on sexy older women ;-) and dated them often.

Our story:

I am 48 and my wife is 66. We met in 1994 when I was 32 and she 50. She was super hot on the cougar scale....she looked (s) beautiful and I was not going to let her slip away. More than that, she was even more beautiful on the inside which had me fall in love with her in a short amount of time. Me being the bold cub that I had always been, I immediately expressed my attraction to her and my desire to date her. It did not take long before we were an item. It took about a week....LOL. We were both very attracted to each other and the age difference did not bother us because she shares my ballsy personality where we do not give a **** about what other people might think. Those were different times might I add. Besides, our age difference did not show very much due to her youthful appearance. We were living together by year 2 and married by year 5. That was 16 years ago and we are still happily married. The point I am trying to make is that it is not always about sex alone when it comes to OW YM relationships. We are living proof of that.

Prior to meeting my wife, I spent 12 years of dating older women on and off. Some were discreet hookups when i was younger and sleeping with women in their late 40's to early 50's whose husbands could no longer perform. Others were my girlfriends and we were not discreet. I only dated one woman that was younger than me and that was right before I met my current wife.

So there you have it....Cougaring has been around a long time and yes there are young men that WILL marry you if you both make that connection. Love trumps age difference, we are living proof.

I hope that after reading my story, that I inspire some and give some hope.

Take care,

John

gypsyred · #2 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 09:43 PM

From the bottom of my heart, Thank you for sharing that wonderful story John. Because of what you told us here, I believe I will find my younger twin flame, sooner or later. Thank you for maybe the best Valentine's Day present I've ever had! Hope.

lunamor · #3 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 10:08 PM

Hi John, great story and very encouraging, thanks for telling us about your experience. Although marriage may not be the goal of all, a serious loving relationship is what many want, me included!
You were 32 when you met your wife: do you think you would have been ready for a lasting relationship when you were in your mid-to-late 20s? I have the impression that many guys just aren't into that groove until they hit 30 or so.

downsouthcub · #4 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 11:08 PM

wow, stories like this are pretty inspiring if ya ask me

johnexx1 · #5 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 11:09 PM

You are right, when I was in my mid twenties, i was not ready to settle down. But that was me maybe some would. However, I do think that many but not all 25 year olds would be ready to settle down with a 44 - 50 year old woman.

Lunamor, I see that you are in Italy. I have a friend that has a home near Florence. From the pictures I have seen, it is very beautiful in that part of Italy.

top_cat · #6 (**permalink**) 02-11-2010, 11:25 PM

If you ever study a historical subject you see that nothing really is new, and that people weren't really more prudent before - they just had different values.
In the middle ages it was sometimes usual to sit and eat chicken during christian services,
in ancient greece it was normal for elderly men to have sex with adolescent boys and have parties that didn't allow women except from prostitutes and slaves and China used to have men travelling around being paid to take girls virginity.

As for relationships between young men and older women the only thing I can come up with from the top of my head is Oedipus marrying his mom, only he's fictional.

As for people being more free spirited nowadays I'd like to add that the song "Anything Goes" was written in the early twentieth century, the bohemians in the 1870s weren't too different from hippies a hundred years later and the craziest artists did just about everything there is to do (which makes todays "provocative" art rather tedious in my eyes) in the 1920s.