Whats the best way?

[jurupa]

I know this may seem desperate, but I am more frustrated than anything else. As I have sent about 10 or so messages to cougars (messages where sent on this site as well as on others), and out of the 10 only 1 responded but was not interested. I know not every single cougar I send a message to is going to be interested in me. But I was just wondering how do I get more cougars to reply back to me?

I tried pre-made messages that I made up. As well as messages that where tailored to the cougars profile. One or two off the wall ones. Is there a better way to go about this? Mean what type of message I should I send. Or is just luck of the draw?

Make sure you are using photos effectively. That is #1 thing people judge when dating online. Include 1 of each of these pics:

-Straightforward, "mugshot" photo of you that lets the cougar see exactly what she's buying. This will convey authenticity.

-Photo of you having fun with the guys. Don't make it too rowdy of course, but you want this photo to convey that you have been accepted by other men.

-Photo of you working. Preferably, this would be at your job, but if that's not possible include a photo of you raking leaves or something. This will convey responsibility.

-Photo of you with girls. DON'T include any photos of you snogging girls, as this will come of as trying too hard. Just have a photo of you and other girls enjoying each others company. This signal that other girls have enjoy you.

-Photo of you enjoying a hobby (preferable with other guys). This will convey that you have passion.

Honestly though, I think online dating is overrated. Even if you do hit off with a cougar online, there's no gaurentee you'll be compatable in person. You might as well be going on a blind date.

[buni]

I personally don't want to see my potential cubs with pictures of other girls at all unless it is their sisters or something.