What do cougars like to talk about?

Met a cougar in class today. Now I have never approached a cougar before, but she happened to sit next to me.

Cougar: There's not many people in class today.
Me: Well, duh, it's not a test day.
Cougar: (smiles)
(Silence)

I tried to think of something witty to say but came up blank. So instead I just asked "What are you studying?"

Cougar: I'm majoring in communications. How about you?
Me: I'm studying philosophy.
Cougar: Wow. Philosophy is too tough for me.
Me: Well some people think it is but I love it.

And from there we talked about generic stuff like teachers we liked. I was kind of anxious being caught by surprise and I didn't have anything to say. I need some funny things to say to cougars.

She left before the end of the lecture so I didn't get to say goodbye to her. She did smile to me before leaving but I think that was out of politeness. Grrrr, frustrated. What kind of things to cougars like to talk about?

[buni]

I don't know about others, but I like to talk about anything and everything. Hobbies, music, movies, books etc. I like to talk about almost anything that you would talk to your friends about for the most part.
I'm sure some cougars are more into stuff like wine and culture..

Just get the 'feel' for her, but don't blurt out and ask her if she likes drink and party(not assuming that you would, but you never know lol)..usually a big turn off for me anyway.

If you get the chance to talk to her again don't be afraid to ask her what her hobbies are or what she likes to do when she isn't studying.
Good luck with her

I'd like to remind you...just because she is older does NOT mean she is a cougar.

rampage12: As far as I'm concerned, she's a cougar until proven otherwise. No sense cutting yourself off before you start.

[buni]

ohh good advice tarni! I never even thought about her maybe being married.
(which makes for another good subject)

I tend to stay away from guys who have young girls and goofy buddies all around them too.

Originally Posted by tarni

Oh, did you happen to notice if she is wearing a wedding ring?

She did have a ring on that fourth finger. Didn't notice until we were talking a few minutes. Oh well, good practice.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by tarni

Yeah, many Cougars out there are married looking for an affair. I would never promote that and would hate for any one of the young men out there to get involved in something like that. Who knows what kind of husband she has.

I am surprise that there would be a lot of married cougars out there. I would think with the high divorce rate in the US that there would be a lot of single cougars out there.

[sbrdbnt]

Rampage would be correct.

It's a mistake to assume all older women may be cougars, unless proven otherwise.

With that said, there's no reason not to give it a try to see if she's a potential cougar. Just agree that you won't come to the forums wondering why someone you're interested in isn't interested in younger men

A cougar is an older women who is specifically interested in dating younger men.

As I say, while all cougars are older women, not all older women are cougars.

I can remember several threads where the OP wondered why the older woman wasn't interested. Well, because she wasn't a cougar.

My checklist to identify a cougar:
1. She 'pounces' on you (ie flirts, makes physical contact, makes it obvious she's 'into' you)
2. She asks you on a date
3. She doesn't hesitate accepting when you ask her out on a date.
4. She goes to bars known for being cougar bars with the purpose of checking out all the cubs.

Anyone want to add some things to the list?

Being friendly does not equate to being a cougar.

[jurupa]

Originally Posted by sbrdbnt

1. She 'pounces' on you (ie flirts, makes physical contact, makes it obvious she's 'into' you)

Certainly agree with that. But saying that it is extremely important to read her body language and make dam sure she is actually showing interest in you and not just having fun flirting. The reason I say this is that I have had older women approach me at work and had flirted with me but it was in the content of them just having fun with a young guy on the spot and nothing else.

2. She asks you on a date
3. She doesn't hesitate accepting when you ask her out on a date.

Unless she wants a one night stand then she may ask to go to some place to have sex with you.

4. She goes to bars known for being cougar bars with the purpose of checking out all the cubs.

Wouldn't one think if you go to a known cougar bar and you see older women there wouldn't there be a high chance that they are indeed cougars?

Anyone want to add some things to the list?

Yup! Heres mine:

1. Look for older women that are dress more sexy and showing off their assets (breast, butt, legs, etc), as they are more likely to be a cougar.
2. If the cougar is a new to the scene she may not come on as strongly, so look for more subdued flirting and showing signs of interest.
3. Online wise read the profile and what the woman is looking for age wise and relationship wise. I am referring to sites like MySpace and Plenty of Fish.

Being friendly does not equate to being a cougar.

So true. I would even go further to say that just because a female of any age is being friendly to you, does not mean she is interested in you.