do they always "find" you?

[in2big]

Lets say I am out in some public place (other than a bar, cause I HATE tryin to meet women at bars). If I want to approach an older women, should I wait for a signal (like a wink or a smile, or some type of eye contact, etc.) before approaching and trying to talk/flirt with them with the purpose of getting their number/a date? Even if a cougar is 'shy', does she still drop hints when she wants to be approached?

I ask this because alot of people say that if a woman is a 'cougar', she will find you and approach you first, if she wants you.. Guys, do you pretty much find this to be true? do you wait for a hint before you approach a woman ? of the cougars you have dated (not ones that you met online), have they been the ones to pursue you? I have also been told that women may not show interest, even if they are interested, because they dont wanna get turned down.

I am 26 but have limited experience with women (none with older women/cougars). lol I havent dated much since high school and then it was easy meeting women, but harder now cause I am no longer in any type of school. I have some older women i could pursue at work but not sure. that could be dangerous, even though we dont always work close to each other

[olderlady66]

if i was interested,as i now find young men,whereas when i was in my 40's and 50's i use to get picked up in bars/clubs.i now pick up young out in public,at shopping centres,even the local library.i am so much more liberated now in way i do this

[in2big]

Originally Posted by olderlady66

if i was interested,as i now find young men,whereas when i was in my 40's and 50's i use to get picked up in bars/clubs.i now pick up young out in public,at shopping centres,even the local library.i am so much more liberated now in way i do this

This is great. how do you go about picking up these young men in public places? what kinda openers do you use?

[carldarlington]

hello tarni.hope you are doing fine.i was just caught by your profile and decided to write to you.well i am seeking for my soul mate.that is what has brought me to you now.looking for the woman i will spend the rest of my-life with.i guess we are having the same idea of being here so lets get together and get to know much about ourselves.hope to hear from you soon........carl

[princebybirth]

Tarni is using the example I dropped in the other thread... "how to properly bait your cougar trap" Here's a good shirt for you... http://i301.photobucket.com/albums/n...eamsgt/lol.jpg

Also, if you want to create an opening for yourself with her, if she's at the bar have the bartender bring her a drink and tell her it's from you (even better if you just have him bring her a refill that way you don't risk getting her something she doesn't like). Or, if she's at a table, you have her waiter do the same thing...