how do i know she's into me

[tall_n_handsome]

There is this cougar, and she's sexy as hell and I dont want to do anything and get shot down till i get a little more sure that's she's into me that way, she seems to i mean she always come over and hugs me if i see her, before i even say anything, now she is married but they fight all the time and you can tell it's not ment to be, the other day i came over there house to watch the game and she calls me into the bedroom and she's laying there strateling a pillow in booty shorts and a t-shirt and she wanted to talk, but im wondering if her husband wasnt there what would have happened. So how do i know she's into me, and then how do i start to let her know i feel the same but I cant come straight with it

[sbrdbnt]

Originally Posted by tall_n_handsome

...the other day i came over there house to watch the game and she calls me into the bedroom and she's laying there strateling a pillow in booty shorts and a t-shirt and she wanted to talk...

She wanted to talk to you about something? What did you talk about? Was the husband in the room, or out watching the game?

She hugs you whenever you see her? How long does she hug you for, and what kind of hug is it?

If I'm reading this as it is, depending on what she wanted to talk about, I'd say she's either hinting about wanting you, or she's a major tease.

If I was being optimistic about the situation, if the husband wasn't there, you probably would've gotten laid, and you wouldn't be here asking the question

The next time you see her, just ask her. If she is a tease, you won't have lost anything as you never really had it. If she wants you, she'll tell you. I can't really see her getting shy about the situation.

With that said, I know what it might be like to over analyze a situation, and can neither see if she is or isn't interested.

I have a situation like that. Met someone (not a cougar) who we met for a conversation, and all the signals she was giving off seemed like she was quite interested in me, although several days later since I don't know what her schedule is like, she's sporadic with the emails and text messages. Said she'd call, receive a text message late in the evening that she got home late, heading to sleep, etc. Start to wonder, if she really is interested, wouldn't she call anyway. She's a student so her classes could run late, but I don't really know. Made plans to meet tomorrow, but she has a late class she didn't know about? At this point I'm choosing not to analyze the situation, and see how things play out.

Not looking for advice on the above, just an example of how over-analyzing something can create headaches

[tall_n_handsome]

A couple different things nothing serious, the husband was downstairs watching the game, and when she hugs me alot of times she'll grab me around the waist and pull her hips in, thats why i was talking about the hugs i mean im not like "OMG SHE HUGGED ME IM GETTING LAID" ya know, but putting the hips in, and i cant come outright and ask her first its not my style i like the seduceing and playing the game ya know? second i dont want to anything to be awkward after all im looking for is something that i can do to see if she is into me and put me over the 50-50 mark cause then ill deff make a move

[martinix3]

you shouldn't wait for her to make the move.
initiate more personal conversations and give some hints so you can get some real answers.

her touchy feely actions seem to give off that she wants something. how about you grab her by the waist next time. if she is weirded out or somehow surprised tell her that you thought it was appropriate since she always does it.

[energeticmale]

She could like you, but it also could be heavy flirting because her relationship with her husband is not that good. Women want to feel appreciated, loved and wanted by men and feel sexy and if her husband isn't giving her that she may be looking to you. I have had that happen before where a woman shows a real interest and flirts and wants to get physical and enjoys the attention you give her and I found out she was married, but in a loveless relationship without sex. I don't think it's a good idea to get involved with someone who's married. If things start getting personal maybe you should discuss her relationship with her husband and ask her if she's willing to leave him.