help me please

[man4cougers]

I'm 22 and have found the older woman attractive since a young age. now i get on with women of all ages and i'm always talking to the fairer sex, but i never seem to get anywhere. I've been and had nice long chats with older women and one even said that i was one of a kind and was only put off by my age. I'm relatively shy and i don't do clubing or anything like that so don't meet people there but i can't understand why i find it so hard to get mature women to take interest in me in relationship terms? Even here on this site i've snt loads of messages and my profile is not the best but why do i get no responce. i know i'm not shakespeare but why do i have such a problem

Please help!

cougerKnight
(Mike)

Hi Mike,

I feel your pain my friend, for the longest time i had real issues in dealing with the fairer sex and basically for the same reasons as you have. I could always talk to girls and women but could never get past the stage of friendship. And thats the point, ive found that if you go into any situation like that you must must be honest and straightforward about what you want from the lady. Now im not advocating you don't be friendly and indeed make friends with women. What i'd suggest though, is that when you do find a lady you really like, be as honest and forthright as possible about what you see coming from your time spent together (on the net or in person). Because its easy to become a friend but mighty hard to go from friend to lover. hence most guys have guy friends and visa versa women have women friends (for the most part).

Just what i thinks about it bud, good luck and i really hope you find a lady who you get on with and can develop deeper feelings with.

Take care mate

[man4cougers]

I understand what you are saying and i think i've seen similar said on anouther site. the problem i have is that i'm 22 and the women i find attractive are usally in their fifty's but not always. i just struggle to get the message across without being shuned away. How do i get the message across that i'm genuine and get the lady i'm looking for?

Though not everyone will agree with me i would say that persistence is the key, unless the lady you like has made it patently clear she isn't interested. Everyone wants/needs to feel wanted and unfortunately allot of people (especially those on dating sites) tend to try and milk attention.

Like i said if the lady has shown that she is looking for more than friendship and is still chatting with you after making this clear, then chances are she would be interested in taking things further with you. But like they say, if your not in the race you cant win, so id say a) find out what the lady your attracted to is looking for. b) Gage where her feelings are at the time and c) make your intentions clear. You have to sift through a lot of mud to strike gold im afraid so be prepared for the lady not to feel in kind. But learn from the experience and never allow rejection to define who you are. Everyone likes confidence .