Virgin?

[thisguy59]

I'm a 21 year old male and still a virgin.

My question is, do older women find this to be a turn off? In my experience, most women my age or a bit older seem to be put off and I've even met people who refuse to talk to me because of that simple fact. Is this a problem?

Why do you bring it as a topic of conversation? That's the real turn-off I think, not the fact that you're a virgin, but the display of it. When I was still a virgin, I never told anybody about it.

[thisguy59]

Well, I don't bring it up as a topic of conversation. However, I do tell the truth when someone asks. I do not think it is of such importance that I would lie, but I see it is for you.

Your point is taken though.

Thank you both for your replies

[sonia]

What name do you use in your profile?

Sonia

[thisguy59]

the screen name that I use in my profile is thisguy59, and my name is dave

[trophywife4fun]

One of the reasons I date younger men is that they have less experience (fewer bad habits) I have had a few good and a few bad experiences with virgins, none of which had to do with their being a virgin or level of sexual experience.

Is it a turn-off? No. Is it a turn on? It could be. I too think the fact you brought it up is lame and a total turn off.

[thisguy59]

thats fair. i guess i'll either avoid or lie next time someone brings it up. thank you all for your advice.

Originally Posted by thisguy59

Well, I don't bring it up as a topic of conversation. However, I do tell the truth when someone asks. I do not think it is of such importance that I would lie, but I see it is for you.

Your point is taken though.

Thank you both for your replies

There is no need to lie. I never lied about my virginity. I just didn't display it. Most people would think negatively if you do so. Try to be positive in all you do otherwise you're selling yourself short. Only one person needs to know it, the rest of the world doesn't care!

[thisguy59]

perhaps I have misrepresented myself. I do not think negatively of myself and to be honest, I do not care that much.

The reason I bring it up is the fact that its becoming an increasingly frequent question and I was looking for advise and opinions which is what I believed this section was for. I apologize if I did something wrong by bringing it up here.

Dear Dave:

There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I feel
in my heart that sensuality should be shared
with someone you truly love and who appreciates
you. I know this sounds radical, but sensuality
has nothing to do with experience but how
you make the other person feel loved and
cherished. As a woman and I can only speak
from my own perspective because all women
are different, intercourse is not everything.
In fact, I can live without it quite well, but
living without the tender touch of all body
exploration...well, that's hard for me.
My ex-fiance gave the best back rubs and
foot rubs. Also hugging is wonderful. I'm blushing,
but also bubblebaths with that special someone.
I loved bathing him. Some women may be intercourse
oriented and it may be important to them and then there
are some women like myself who appreciate
tendernenss above all else. If a woman
truly loves you, it will not matter because
you will be the treasure in and of itself.
I'm not sure if this makes sense to you
because it is written from a female perspective.
But I have only had one man in my life. He
was a stroke victim, but his heart was very
tender and kind. (He was 8 years younger
and I wish I could meet someone like him.
This would be the answer to my prayers.)
To me, sensuality starts at the soul connection
and then when explored with the right person
who is open and willing
to share her world and his...well, that is
the key. Be proud you are a virgin. You have a
pure heart. Many women would truly cherish you
because you value your body. I have worked
in the health care industry for more than 20
years, I have seen the ravages of promiscuity.
I have held an AIDs patient in my arms when
I was 23. He was dying from AIDS and
during the 1980's, it was downright scary.
Good luck in finding that special person
and be proud that you think for yourself,
value your heart and when the right
girl (20's) or woman (30's and up) comes
along, you will be her rain forest of
unchartered territory. Oh, well, I hope I
don't get any heat from this response. But my advice
is wait till you have an emotional connection with
someone who truly loves you and then share
the truth...if she loves you, she'll be very
happy. No women before her...your hers.
Now that's romantic. Yes? God, I
think all women should have a man who
is a virgin because the heart is truly
pure and all hers...what a treasure. I never
contemplated male virginity before. I always felt
it was a woman's issue. Thank you, Dave, for
sharing your experiences with us. You are brave
and an inspiration to us all. Take excellent care
and good luck in all that you seek.

Yours truly,
Sabrina and Munchkin