How Can We Make Dating a More Positive Experience

[sabrinaswinter]

I have witnessed the single scene this past Friday. I have never witnessed so many rude girls (20's and up) and how they acted toward young men. I was with a dear lady friend who is an angel. It seems all the women are going after men with money. We were in Oakdale by the docks. There were so many people. I noticed that all the women gravitated toward the older men with boats and power. I was kind to everyone. I felt sorry for two men in their mid 20's who approached an older woman, trying to convince her the boat was theirss. It wasn't. I knew it wasn't, but I would have responded, "Your spirit is more valuable than any boat." The man who owned the boat was in his 40's and looking for girls in their 20's. My friend and I were kind to everyone we met. (We're both spiritual) I met a sweet young man about 29 or 30. I was so suprised that no girls were after him. He was truly gorgeous. We discussed psychology and exchanged information about the old abandoned Kings Park Psychiatric Center. I used to work there. He is an urban explorer. Our conversation was wonderful. I felt sad for many of the young men. There seems to be more of them than women available. I feel the most important thing is to connect to what kind of inner traits they have. I found some of the men in their 50's bragging about things but not about the people who touched their lives. I am curious about the message board's experience. I guess, when I first started dating, I was taught to be kind even to those one is not interested in, to extend friendship if the person is okay and if not, well, be polite and disappear if any safety issues surfaced. Is this impolite behavior common toward young men? I feel young men (mid 20's and up) deserve respect and dignity. Some of them may even be veterans. How can we as women close this gender cap and give all the respect these young gentlemen deserve or is this something of the past. I just feel that respect and courtesy should never go out of style. I remember one woman in her fifties who was truly gorgeous. One poor young man asked if she'd like a drink and she laughed him off. She could have just said, "No thank you." She viewed him as a joke. I thought it was odd. Four young men thought I was a graduate student at their school. I've never attended Dowling College. I have a masters degree from Stony Brook. Why is the dating scene so harsh toward young men? Some nights one does not find love, but at least be kind to those around you. Also what advice can our young friends (mid 20's to 40's) give to a woman who is shy when they approach.

[tarni]

It is a sad state of society now where money is the object and not the heart/soul of a person. These guys are just looking in the wrong place and if they expect to get anything from it, they are sadly mistaken. But then again, perhaps the reason why they are there is just to get laid and not a real relationship. The odds are against you if you think you are going to get something real at a pickup joint late at night.

[jurupa]

I unfortunately live in an area where a lot of girls and women of any age are very materialistic. But besides the materialistic females I have also seen a fair amount of entitlement. I just laugh at these females (and guys), because their whole life is basically base upon material things and that they deserve everything even tho they have not worked for it. I also learned to hide how much money I have as well from such females.


And some people wonder why I been single for such a long time.