An affair with older women?

[Erik90]

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen!

Let me star of by introducing myself.

My name is Erik and I am 20 years old. I am a full time university student and have a part time job at a local Hospital.

I met this woman about two years ago. I was attracted to her since the very first time I met her. I know her very well because she is very close to my mother, as a friend. She is now 35 years old and she divorced her husband about a year ago. She has two kids. When I met her for the very first time she introduced me her son, who is about 3 years younger than me. I used to go to the Gym with her son back in the days and taught him how to workout. He seemed like a cool guy. We were kind of a gym buddies but apart from that we did not really have any interests in common.

I believe, she is kind of an easy going woman and does not like to complicate things. Ever since the divorce, she is going out to bars and having fun like a normal single woman would. I don't think she is stressed or in a depression because of the divorce. Lately, I am often seeing her hanging out with my mother at home. I might be wrong, but I think she attracted to me as well. I often catch her eyes looking at me and we smile at each other.

I have been having some sort of ``short-term`` relationships with girls of my own age since I was 16 years old. I never used to date or have an affair with women who are significantly older than me. Therefore, my question is: How do I approach her ? Wouldn't be it awkward because she is my mother's close friend? Wouldn't it affect her relationship with my mother?

Hoping to get some advice. Especially, from women. What would you do in this kind of situation ? Thank you very much

[houstoncougar]

Leave her alone don't even try it. Would you want your mom to date one of your very good friends? I doubt that you would and if your mom found out it would most likely hurt her and do you really want to hurt your mother? You must think that your mother would not approve or you could have just told your mother you have feelings for her friend and would like to ask her out. But I'm thinking the kind of feelings you have for her are just sexual and thinking with your ***** is not the right way of thinking.

[elfprincess]

Any friend of your mother's - DON'T GO THERE.

Your mother would be horrified that her FRIEND was sleeping with or otherwise involved with her son. She would see this as a betrayal - and it would be. You would destroy the friendship, for one thing.

Better to keep your distance. There are plenty of older women in the wider world. In any case mothers are not always totally happy to have their boys sleep with women close in age to themselves! Why not? Because he is their son, their little boy, their baby even if he is twentysomething and stands more than six feet high!

You would not like to see your mother romancing, kissing, hugging etc a guy YOUR age. Even if you recognised that she was free to date anyone she liked, you would still hate it and resent him being around - you'd probably hate him, and want to kick is sorry a**.

Keep your romantic and sexual longings for older women FAR far away from home!